ThroughoutthepastfewyearsIhavebeenawedbythebraveand
dedicatedpeoplewhoworktohelpaddictsandtheirfamilies.My
familywascounseled,guided,andsupportedbyDavidFrankel,Rick
Raw-son,PaulEhrlich,JaceHorwitzatHerbertHouseSoberLiving
Environment,andhumblesaintswhoprefertobementionedonlyby
theirfirstnames,RandyandTed.Ireservespecial,andboundless,
gratitudeforMaryMargaretMcClure,DonAlexander,andour
children'sremarkableteachers.
Finally,IwouldliketothankthewondrouscommunitiesofPoint
ReyesStationandInverness,andofcoursemydearfamilyand
friends.Iftheygotsickofourendlesscrises,andhowcouldtheynot
have—Idid—theyneveronceshowedit.ThankyouSarah,Mike,
Ginny,Annie,Peggy,cowgirlsSueandNan,Armistead,Christopher,
Lee,SteveR.,Heidi,Bo,Jenny,Jim,MikeM.,Marshall,Jennifer,
Suning,Ginee,Fred,Jessica,Peter,Ilie,Jeremiah,Taylor,Vicki,
Susan,Buddy,Debra,Mark,Jenny,Becca,Bear,Susan,Lucy,Steve,
Mark,Nancy,Don,Sumner,andJoan—andJamie,Kyle,Dylan,and
Lena.Ononeoftheworstdays,IcheckedmyvoicemailandJamie
hadcalledfromNewYork."Iwanttoflyhomeandbuildaretaining
wallaroundyou,"hesaid.YouandKyledid(anddo).Andwithmy
boundlesslove,thankyou(again)Daisy,Jasper,Nic,andKaren.
Resources
Forfurtherreadingandhelp.Thisisbynomeansanexhaustivelist,
butthefollowingbooks,articles,andWebsitesmaybeuseful.
Addiction.HBOSeries.ProducedbyJohnHoffmanandSusan
Froemke.DVDavailable.www.hbo.com.HomeBoxOffice,2007.
Al-AnonandAl-AnonFamilyGroupHeadquarters.TheAl-Anon
FamilyGroups—ClassicEdition.VirginiaBeach,VA:Al-Anon
FamilyGroupHeadquarters,Inc.,2000.
Al-AnonandAl-AnonFamilyGroupHeadquarters.Alateen—Hope
forChildrenofAlcoholics.VirginiaBeach,VA:Al-AnonFamily
GroupHeadquarters,Inc.,1973.
Al-AnonandAl-AnonFamilyGroupHeadquarters.Courageto
Change:OneDayataTimeinAl-AnonII.VirginiaBeach,VA:AlAnonFamilyGroupHeadquarters,Inc.,1968,1972,1973.
Al-AnonandAl-AnonFamilyGroupHeadquarters.OneDayata
TimeinAl-Anon.VirginiaBeach,VA:Al-AnonFamilyGroup
Headquarters,Inc.,1968,1972,1973.
Al-AnonandAl-AnonFamilyGroupHeadquarters.PathstoRecovery
—Al-Anon'sSteps,Traditions,andConcepts.VirginiaBeach,VA:AlAnonFamilyGroupHeadquarters,Inc.,1997.
Black,Claudia,Ph.D.StraightTalkfromClaudiaBlack:What
RecoveringParentsShouldTellTheirKidsAboutDrugsandAlcohol.
CityCenter,MN:HazeldenPublishing,2003.
Brown,Stephanie,Ph.D.,VirginiaM.Lewis,Ph.D,withAndrew
Liotta.TheFamilyRecoveryGuide:AMapforHealthyGrowth.
Oakland,CA:NewHarbingerPublications,2000.
Cheever,Susan.MyNameIsBill:BillWilson—HisLifeandthe
CreationofAlcoholicsAnonymous.NewYork:WashingtonSquare
Press,2005.
——.NoteFoundinaBottle.NewYork:WashingtonSquarePress,
2006.
Conyers,Beverly.AddictintheFamily:StoriesofLoss,Hope,and
Recovery.CenterCity,MN:HazeldenPublishingandEducational
Services,2003.
Didion,Joan.TheYearofMagicalThinking.NewYork:Knopf,2005.
Hoffman,John,andSusanFroemke,eds.HBO'sAddiction:WhyCan't
TheyJustStop?NewYork:RodalePress,2007.
Johnson,Vernon.Intervention:HowtoHelpSomeoneWhoDoesn't
WanttoBeHelped.CenterCity,MN:HazeldenPublishing,1986.
Kellermann,JosephL.AGuidefortheFamilyoftheAlcoholic.
CenterCity,MN:HazeldenPublishingandEducationalServices,
1996.
Ketcham,Katherine,andWilliamF.Asbury,withMelSchulstadand
ArthurP.Ciaramicoli.BeyondtheInfluence:Understandingand
DefeatingAlcoholism.NewYork:BantamBooks,2000.
Lamott,Anne.BirdbyBird:SomeThoughtsonWritingandLife.New
York:Anchor,1995.
——.PlanB:FurtherThoughtsonFaith.NewYork:Riverhead
Trade,2006.
——.TravelingMercies:SomeThoughtsonFaith.NewYork:
Anchor,2000.
Lynch,Thomas."TheWayWeAre,"fromBodiesinMotionandat
Rest:OnMetaphorandMortality.NewYork:W.W.NortonandCo.,
2001.
"TheMethEpidemic."Frontline.DVD.PBS,2005.
Milan,JamesRobert,andKatherineKetcham.UndertheInfluence:A
GuidetotheMythsandRealitiesofAlcoholism.NewYork:Bantam
Books,1983.
Mnookin,Seth."HarvardandHeroin."Salon.com,Aug.27,1999.
——."TheEndofMyWorldAsIKnewIt."Slate.com,Dec.31,
2004.Mnookin,Wendy."MySontheHeroinAddict."Salon.com,
Aug.27,1999.
MoyersonAddiction:ClosetoHome.DirectedbyBillMoyers.VHS.
CurriculumMediaGroup,1998.
Moyers,WilliamC.,andKatherineKetcham.Broken:MyStoryof
AddictionandRedemption.NewYork:Viking,2006.
Orenstein,Peggy."StayingClean."NewYorkTimesMagazine,
February10,2002.
RecoveryofChemicalDependentFamilies(booklet).CenterCity,
MN:Hazelden/JohnsonInstitute,1987.
Schwebel,Robert.SayingNoIsNotEnough:HelpingYourKidsMake
WiseDecisionsAboutAlcohol,Tobacco,andOtherDrugs.NewYork:
NewmarketPress,1989.
Shannonhouse,Rebecca.UndertheInfluence:TheLiteratureof
Addiction.NewYork:ModernLibrary,2003.
Sheff,Nic.Tweak.NewYork:GineeSeoBooks/Atheneum,2007.
Singer,Mark."TheMisfit:HowDavidMilchGotfromNYPDBlueto
DeadwoodbyWayofanEpistleofSt.Paul."TheNewYorker,
February14and25,2005.
Wallerstein,JudithS.,andSandraBlakeslee.WhatAbouttheKids:
RaisingYourChildrenBefore,During,andAfterDivorce.NewYork:
Hyperion,2003.
Wallerstein,JudithS.,JuliaM.Lewis,andSandraBlakeslee.The
UnexpectedLegacyofDivorce:The25-YearLandmarkStudy.New
York:Hyperion,2000.
Websitesformoreinformationandreferrals,includingtwelve-step
meetingsinyourarea
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/>Nar-Anon
/>AlcoholicsAnonymous
NarcoticsAnonymous