BeautifulBoy
A
Father's
Journey
Through
His
Son's
Addiction
DavidSheff
HOUGHTONMIFFLINCOMPANY
Boston·NewYork
2008
Copyright©2008byDavidSheff
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LibraryofCongressCataloging-in-PublicationData
Sheff,David.
Beautifulboy:afather'sjourneythrough
hisson'saddiction/DavidSheff.
p.cm.
ISBN-13:978-0-618-68335-2
ISBN-10:0-618-68335-6
1.Drugabuse—Treatment—California.
2.Methamphetamineabuse—Treatment
—California.3.Childrenofdivorced
parents—California.I.Title.
HV5831.C2S542006
362.29'9—dc22[B]
2006026981
BookdesignbyMelissaLotfy
PrintedintheUnitedStatesofAmerica
MP10987654321
Thisbookisforthewomenandmenwhohavededicatedtheir
livestounderstandingandcombatingaddictionatrehabs,hospitals,
researchcenters,sober-livingandhalfwayhouses,andorganizations
devotedtoeducationaboutdrugabuse,aswellastheanonymous—
thebraveoneswhokeepcomingback—atcountlesstwelve-step
meetingseverydayandnightthroughouttheworld—tothemand
theirfamilies:thepeoplewhounderstandmyfamily'sstorybecause
theyhavelivedandarelivingit,thefamiliesoftheaddicted—their
children,brothersandsisters,friends,partners,husbandsandwives,
andparentslikeme."It'sjustthatyoucan'thelpthemandit'sallso
discouraging,"wroteF.ScottFitzgerald.Butthetruthis,youdohelp
them,andyouhelponeanother.Youhelpedme.Alongwiththem,
thisbookisdedicatedtomywife,KarenBarbour,andmychildren,
Nic,Jasper,andDaisySheff.
Contents
introduction1
PART1 stayuplate17
PARTIIhisdrugofchoice105
PARTIIIwhatever123
PARTIVifonly171
PARTVneveranyknowing235
epilogue307
Acknowledgments319
Resources321
Credits325
Whenyoucrossthestreet,
Takemyhand.
—JOHNLENNON,"BeautifulBoy(DarlingBoy)"
Introduction
IthurtssobadthatIcannotsavehim,protecthim,
keephimoutofharm'sway,shieldhimfrompain.
Whatgoodarefathersifnotforthesethings?
—THOMASLYNCH,"TheWayWeAre"
"HowdyPop,God,Imissyouguyssomuch.Ican'twaittoseeyouall.
Onlyonemoreday!!!Woo-hoo."
Nicisemailingfromcollegeontheeveningbeforehearrives
homeforsummervacation.JasperandDaisy,oureight-andfiveyear-olds,aresittingatthekitchentablecutting,pasting,andcoloring
notesandwelcome-homebannersforhishomecoming.Theyhavenot