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Day tre lam
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-
Susan
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Monson
MUC LUC
Lai
gidi thieu
7
Chifdng
1:
DAT MUC
TIEU
11
Chvjfdng
2:
HIEU
BIET
VE CAC
"MUA

HOC TAP"
35
Chiidng
3: CA
GIA
DINH
CUNG NHAU LAM VIEC
47
ChUdng
4:
BANG PHAN CONG CONG VIEC
67
Chiidng
5: DAY TRE
CACH
LAM
VIEC
99
Chufdng
6:
DUA
RA
NHUNG PHAN HOI TICH
CUC
131
Chiidng
7:
KHUYEN KHICH
VA
PHAN THUC)NG

145
Chifdng
8:
HINH
PHAT
HOP LY
169
Chiidng
9: TO
CHLTC PHONG
NGU
187
Chifdng
10:
QUAN
LY
TIEN
BAG
205
ChUdng
11:
DANH
GIA
227
PhulucA
\
251
PhulucB
256
PhulucC

261
Led
gi&i
thieu
Cac ong bo ba me da khai
thac
diTdc "nguon lao dong" sftn
CO
- nhflng dxia tre -
chifa?
Co the nhieu
ngubi
se nghi:
"Do dung la mot y tUdng tuyet vdi, tuy the
each
nay se
tieu
ton nhieu
thdi
gian hdn". Cha me c6 the lam
viec
tot
hdn
va nhanh hdn nhieu so v6i con cai. Do la y nghi rat
thien
can. Chung toi nghi rang tre lam
viec
nha la mot
dieu
tot vi chiing can hoc

each
lam
viec
va cha me can sU
giup
dd cua chung.
Khi
con ban t6i 18
tuoi,
chiing da c6
32.234
gid dUdc
cha me day do. Thdi gian hoc tap tren 16p va nghien
cilu
i5*frT;jFj'i:
J hoan thanh chiidng
trinh
cii nhan tai trUdng dai hoc
ton
2.100 gid, con neu con ban di hoc
nghe
thi chung chi
can mot nufa so'thdi gian do. Vay
thdi
gian d nha cua tre
nhieu gap 16 Ian
thdi
gian hoc tap d
triidng
dai hoc. Vay

cac bac cha me muon s\i dung lUdng
thdi
gian ay
nhii
the
nao?
Cac con sau khi
trufdng
thanh se ra
ddi
va
song
tu lap!
Lieu
chung ta c6
chac
rang chung c6 the tU giai quyet
on
thoa
nhiing van de trong
cuoc
song
(ma khong can
cha me)? Lieu chung c6 biet lam cac
cong
viec
nha ddn
gian
nhat?
Lieu chung c6 the nau nhflng bfla an

ddri
gian
nhung
day du
chat
dinh
dufdng
cho ban
than?
Lieu chung
CO
the biet sip xep cho cf ngan nap, biet bao quan do
7
dung?
Hay chiing c6 biet
each
chi tieu hdp ly, tranh dxiac
nhiing
khoan nd khong can thiet? Thiidng thi cac bac cha
me se de tre
tii
xoay
xd va hy
vong
moi
chuyen
se tot dep.
Lieu
chiing ta c6 nen de cho tre hoc nhiing ky nang do tii
thilc

te
cuoc
song
hang
ngay?
Cuon
sach
nay se chia se nhiing
nguyen
tac, chien
liidc va Idi khuyen ve
each
giiip tre
hoan
thanh
viec
nha.
B.F. Skinner c6 the khien mot con chim bo cau mo
10.000
Ian
vdi hy
vong
lay diidc thiic an. Tre c6 the hoc
theo
ngUdi Idn de gay sii chii y
hoac
de lay ph^n thiidng ma
chiing thich. Cung gid'ng
nhii
bd cau, tre ludn

cd'ging
de
nhan diidc phan thudng du cd diidc hay khong. Chiing
toi
se chi cho cac bac cha me
each
bien nhiing Idi che
trach thanh nhiing cau khen ngdi de thiic day tre tich
cUc lam
viec
nha. , , • -d , ;
Trong
cuon
sach
nay, ban se biet ky nang thich hdp
cho tre d moi do tuoi. Ban se hoe
each
day cho tre nhiing
ky nang do va
dong
thdi
hoc
each
khuyen khich, ddng
vien cdn ban the hien kha nang. Thiie te nhiing ngiidi
xung quanh se khien tre lam
viee
tdt hdn cha me, nhiing
cha me c6 the tao ra nhiing
tinh

hudng vui nhdn va hiing
thii
de khien tre lam
viec.
Nhiing cau
chuyen,
sd dd, trd
chdi, cac med diide diia ra khien cdn ban lam
viec
ehd tdi
khi
chiing du triidng thanh va tii
giac
lam
viec
do.
Neu ban
dang
tim kiem mot tro chdi de mang lai ket
qua
tiie
thi, hay
thii
tro
doan.
De tre giau
miidi
do vat
trong mot can
phong,

roi ban se la ngiidi
doan
ndi eat
giau cac do vat do. De thay doi thoi
quen
"lam dau bo
8
do" cua con tre khi chiing c\i bay
sach
vd, do dCing, ao
khoac
va nhiing vat dung cua chiing d khdp ndi trong
nha, hay doc "Kiem tra liic 8 gid"
dUdc
mo ta d trang 177.
Neu giiidng ngu cua cdn ban luon Ion xon, hay doc
ngay
Chiidng 9 de danh gia lai
tinh
hinh va
thik
s\i dung
bang
mo ta ve
phong
ngu (trang 203).
Nhiing
phan
khac
cua

cuon
sach
nay,
nhii
Dat muc
tieu,
Hieu biet ve cac giai
doan
hoc tap, hay Lam
viec
ciing
nhau, diia ra nhiing
nguyen
ly de thiet lap mot nen tang
gia dinh viing
chac
giiip tre tii lap hdn.
Cuon
sach
nay
giiip
tap trung vao mot ke
hoach
hieu qua cho cha me va
con cai de sxi dung
32.234
gid d nha mpt
each
hieu qua. Nd
nhii

mdt
cud'n
cam nang giiip ban thanh
cdng
trong cac
linh
viie ma ngiidi
khac
c6 the bo mac cho sii ngau nhien.
Ban
CO
the phai thay doi mot so' hanh vi cua ban than va
s4p xep lai ngoi nha de lam gifdng ehd tre.
Khdng bad gid la qua mupn de hit dau, ehd dCi cdn cua
ban
dang
d dd
tudi
nao, dii cac phiidng
phap
va hinh thiic
khich le c6 the
khac
nhau di niia. Hay
tii
tin vao nhiing gi
ban da lam.
Viec
ban quan tarn tdi
cuon

sach
nay chiing
to ban da va
dang
tim kiem mot so" nhiing y tiidng d day.
Hay bo lai nhiing nuo'i
tiec
ve sai lam trong qua
khii.
Ban da eo ging het siie minh roi. Chiing toi khong the
hiia
rang con ban se lam tat ca
viec
nha hay tham chi tii
dat ra nhiem vu cho ban than, nhufng it nhat chiing toi
CO
the giiip ban ren luyen con minh de khi chiing c6 nha
rieng va muon
giii
moi
thii
ngan nip thi chiing biet phai
lam the nao.
9
Trong mot
cuoc
khao
sat 250 dHa tre thi 97% t\l nhan
thay rang chiing nen lam
viec

nha. Hay day va cho tre cd
hoi.
Ren luyen tre lam
viec
la tao cd hoi de chung
dUdc
thUdng.
Doi vdi tre,
viec
nay lam tang them
tinh
tii ton
va
CO
cam nhan ve
viec
diidc sd
hiJu.
Chung se c6 cac ky
nang can thiet cho
cuoc
song
khi
triidng
thanh, thiet lap
difdc mo hinh thanh
cong
trong tUdng lai, giup tang
tinh
doc lap va t\l

\\ic,
hoc
each
lam
viec
nhanh va hieu qua.
Tre se nhan thiic ro gia tri cua do dac va biet
tran
trong
hdn nhiJng no luc cua ngifdi khac. Cha me
cung
nhan
difdc phan thufdng xCfng dang, do chinh la con cai se giup
ho mot phan
viec
nha, ho se b6t cau gian va c6 nhieu
thdi
gian tan hiidng
cuoc
song
hdn. Cha me
cung
se cam thay
thanh
cong
hdn khi chuan hi cho con viJng biidc vao ddi,
nh\i mot cau
each
ngon
kha noi tieng: ^ < <?. =

• •
• '
•:
:'.J
w,fh sj
;-,fu'i
Bat cho con mot con ca, se nudi song con horn nay
Day cho con
each
cau ca, con se song ca ddi.
ih
• ' >',
'1
CHl/ONGl '
Dat muc
tieu
• •
Khi
trifdng thanh, nhiJng ky nang nao diidc day ci nha
ma con se dung
den?
Neu ban trao cho con rat nhieu tien,
lieu
so tien do c6 dang gia hdn nhQng ky nang cd ban
ma ban trang hi cho con nhif: NhQng
viec
phai lam hang
ngay
cho du chiing c6
song

den tan 103 tuoi di
nQa?
Neu
con tre biet don dep va giQ gin nha ciia
sach
se, biet iQa
chon
thQc
pham va nau an
ngon,
biet quan ly tien bac thi
chung se
tiet
kiem
dQdc
thdi
gian le ra phai danh cho cac
viec
nay de tap trung
thdi
gian vao hoc tap va lam
viec
hay nhQng
linh
vQc
khac
cua ddi
song.
. , ,.,
|,.,|^

11
Annie 21 tuoi vijfa
chuyen
tdi
Colorado
vcii hy
vong
thdi
tiet am ap ct day c6 the giup c6 chiJa
benh.
Khi t6i
can ho mdi, c6 da mua quan ao va no tdi
6.000
do la.
Cha me khuyen c6 nen mua mot
chiec
xe mdi, mot
chiec
may khau (c6
dang
hoc may), mot
chiec
piano
(hy
vong
mot
ngay
nao do c6 c6 the chdi dan) va
dang
ky hoc

nghe
thuat
trong khi miic lifOng cua c6 rat thap. Annie khong
biet nhieu ve dinh dudng va nau an nen
silc
khoe
hi anh
hucing nghiem trong. Co vat Ion v6i
chiec
ban do thanh
pho'moi
khi phai di dau. Co ciing thieu kinh nghiem
song
nen rat de bi Idi dung. Mot ngifdi ban goi dien thoai cho
CO
tu:
nu6c
ngoai, sii dung dich vu goi den de ngUdi nhan
cuoc
goi tra tien va noi
chuyen
v6i c6 hai mUdi
phiit.
Ban
thii
doan
xem! Co ay khong he biet dieu nay. Nhufng van
de do va ca
viec
bi

dong
trong
cuoc
song
khien c6 thay
chan
nan. Con ban c6
dufdc
nuoi day de trd thanh nhutng
CO
be nhu Annie
khong?
^
Khi
cha me khong dat muc tieu cho tre thi se bien
chung
thanh nhQng c6 cau
giohg
nhut Annie, khong the
giup con cai dat ra muc tieu neu chinh ho
cung
chi c6 mot
khai
niem md ho ve nhiJng gi ma minh
mong
muon con
cai dat difdc. Ban c6 the se tU hoi: "Lieu bo' me c6
quyen
quyet
dinh nhflng muc tieu ma con tre can phai dat t6i?"

Cau tra Idi la "Co". Khi cha me diia ra
dUdc
nhufng chuan
mvLc de tre c6 the hanh
dong
c6 dinh hufdng, phat trien
cac ky nang, dap ling
dufdc
nhiing thach thilc trong
cuoc
ddi
sau nay thi sau do
quyen
lua
chon
hufdng di cua con
tre
mdi c6 the thanh hien thuc. Tre thUdng
chua
du chin
4
12
chan
de dat ra cac muc tieu ma khong c6 nhijtng chuan
mUc nay.
Tiec
thay, chiing ta thUdng can than len ke
hoach
di nghi hai tuan hdn la ren luyen cho con nhiing
ky nang

song
ddn gian. Khi da lam cha me, ban c6 rat
nhieu
each
de chuan bi cho con tre hudc vao ddi cho du
chung
2 tuoi hay 22 tuoi. Trong
suot
18 nam d nha
(hoac
hdn the), ban va con se lam rat nhieu
viec,
di t6i nhieu
ndi,
vay tai sao khong dat muc tieu la lay nhiJng gia tri
ta kinh nghiem
song
do roi len ke
hoach
cho nhQng
hoat
dong
CO
the mang lai nhieu Idi ich cho con ban
nhat?
Viec
tre
thanh thao cac ky nang se giup chiing
hoan
thien

hinh
anh ban than va ta
tin,
t\i do tao lap nhieu ky nang
hdn cho chiing. Nhiing diia tre tii lap c6 the dilng day
sau nhiing khung
hoang
va biidc tiep trong khi nhiing
diia
tre khong c6
tinh
tii
lap se de bi ton thUdng khi gap
phai cac van de trong
cuoc
song.
Cha me se tan hiidng
thanh
qua cua
viec
con cai
tii
lap: Sii
nghiep
lam cha me
thanh
cong,
cong
viec
nha diidc con cai chia se.

Viec
lap
ra
nhiing muc tieu nay se cho
phep
ca cha me va con cai
CO
nhieu
thdi
gian hdn de tan hUdng nhiing dieu
thii
vi
khac
trong
cuoc
song.
Trong mot
cuoc
khao
sat 250 tre ve lam
viec
nha, c6
97% nhiing diia tre diidc hoi deu cam thay can phai giiip
dd cha me
viec
nha. Hay
nghe
nhiing ly do chiing diia ra.
Con cai lam
viec

nha bdi vi:
"Cha me se khong kiet
siic
vi lam moi
viec."
"Vi
con luon bay biia kh&p nha tham chi la bay ra mot
niia
liidng
viec
nha la do con gay nen. Sau nay, con se c6
13
nha rieng, vi the con can phai biet
each
don dep nha cijfa
gon
gang
va biet nau an."
"Biet lam
viec
nha se giiip chung ta de dang c6
viec
lam hdn." '
-^.i',>.••
"Lam
viec
nha giup chiing con c6 them
kinh
nghiem,
biet

each
to chiic va chuan hi cho
cuoc
song
sau nay."
"Con phai hoc
each
c6 trach nhiem vi neu khong thi
khi
Idn, chung con se trd thanh nhiing ke
ludi
bieng."
"Chung con c6 the lam xong het
viec
nha roi mdi vui
chdi."
"Cha me chung chau ly di va me chau da phai di lam
ca
ngay.
Vi the, me can sii giup dd cua chung chau.
Chi
gai chau va chau (17 va 12 tuoi) khong muoh me
vtfa phai di lam vxXa phai lam
viec
nha."
"Chau nghi dieu do se
hinh
thanh mot thoi quen tot
khi
chiing chau 16n len."

"Neu giup cha me lam
viec
nha, ho c6 the di lam vi
phai
kiem tien nuoi ca nha ma."
Cha me hay nam ro cac phUdng phap giup con cai biet
difde
viec
gi can lam va nhiing
each
tao nen
tinh
tii lap
cho chung. Co bay hudc ren luyen
tinh
tu lap cho tre va
khien
chung lam
viec
nha: ;,. j
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u
7.
Danh
gia
,
^
: 6.
Khi'ch
le va ket qua

' ' 5.
Huang
din
each
lam
4.
Phan cong cong viec
3. Lam
cung nhau
2.
Hieu
ve cac mua hoc tap
1. Oat ra cac muc
tieu
Bon bif6c dau tien tao nen mong trif6c khi ban ha6ng
dan tre "lam
viec".
Niem
vui thiic sU nfim trong
viec
chi
day tre
each
hoan thanh mot
viec
va diia ra nhQng Idi
dong vien, khich le chiing.
Viec
khich le can lam deu dan
khi

tre hoe diidc cac ky nang va tang sii tii
tin.
Trii6c khi
day, ban e^n quyet dinh ban va tre se tien xa tdi dau.
Neu ban khong quyet dinh diide muc tieu cua minh thi
ban se
giong
eo be
Alice
lac vao xil sci than tien, khi con
meo
Cheshire
hoi c6 muon "di dau". Co ay tra Idi "khong
quan tam \im ve ndi se
tdi",
chii
meo da noi r^ng "vay thi
quan tam lam gi nhieu tai con diidng ma eo ebon."
BAN SE DI T6I
DAU?
' '^.tuw
Bang Tien bo
viec
nha dvf6i day difdc thiet ke de giiip
xae dinh nhiing gi ban mong muon con minh se hoc diidc
15
trildfc
khi
hxidc
vao ddi.

Budc
dau
tien
la lap bang va mot
td
theo doi; c6 the c^t b6t
hoac
them vao bang cho phu
hdp
vcti
hoan canh. Hay nh6, khong de y thi chung ta se
thxjfdng
quen mat
each
day
diia
nho
nhiing
gi ma chiing ta
da
day cho
diia
Idn hdn. Cung
nhii
vay, chung ta se quen
day con
trai
lam mot vai
viec
nha va quen day con gai mot

vai
ky nang sufa chfla ddn gian, ta cii
chic
rang chung
se gap dUdc
ngiidi
ban ddi c6 the
giai
quye't dufdc nhQng
phan khiem khuyet nay. Nhifng chung toi thay
ring
ca be
gai
va be
trai
se dufdc Idi tii
viec
hoc hoi
cong
viec
cua hai
gi6i.
Tre c6 khuyet tat cung nen hoc cang nhieu ky nang
ma chung c6 the thanh thao dUdc cang tot.
Du
Bang Tien bo
viec
nha ve cd ban bao gom cac trach
nhiem
lam

viec
nha nhung nen
Uu
tien
cho tre hoan thanh
viec
hoc tap tai
triidng.
Ban c6 the cung muoh them vao
bang mot vai ky nang
lien
quan t6i
viec
mua ban va c6
them
sU giup dd khac
tii
cac
giao
vien cho
viec
hoc danh
may, hoc dem,
svLa
chQa
dien va nhi3ng
viec
tiidng
t\l.
Gid

hay xem qua bang sau va quye't
dinh
xem ban
muoh con
minh
phat
trien
ky nang nae. Co rat nhieu
ky
nang
dildc
diia
ra,
nhifng
se hieu qua hdn khi chon
ba nhom ky nang trufdc, roi nghien
cilu
that
ky va hay
chon mot ky nang ma ban muon day cho con trong moi
nhom ky nang do;
hoac
ban c6 the chon ca ba ky nang
trong
Cling
mot nhom. Neu ban c6 nhieu con san san
tuoi
nhau,
ban c6 the lap chung thanh mot doi,
hoac

c6 the
day
tvfng
diia
mot. Mot so'ky nang chi can
gidi
thieu,
sau
do
se
day
chung thanh thuc sau. Con ban difdc lam quen
16
vdi
mot ky nang khi chiing quan sat ngu:di khac
thilc
hien,
dat cau hoi hay lam mot phan viec. Tre lam thanh
thuc khi chiing
t\l
hoan thanh
cong
viec
do it nhat ba Ian.
Hay
nhd
ring
Bang Tien bo
viec
nha chi la mot hu6ng

din
(khong phai la bai kiem tra)
giiip
ban dat muc
tieu
cho gia
dinh.
Vai muc diidc
liet
ke ra day c6 the khong
quan trong v6i ban va ban c6 the them vao cac ky nang
khac ma ban muon. Tuy y ban, hay thoai mai danh gia
va
tiidng
tiidng.
; ; : '
17
BANG
TIEN
BOVIEC
NHA
1.
Viet ten gpi 6 nha cua con canh ky nang ma ban muon hiJdng
dan con. Co du cho cho nhieu dira tre.
2.
Khi con da thanh thao mot cong viec nao do, hay dung gach
cheo len ten con. Vf du: lam sach ngan tu (6-14).
3. Nhufng chQ so dUpc in sau moi ky nang dai dien cho do tuoi
s6m nhat de lam quen vdi ky nang do va tuoi ma ban c6 the
hi vpng tre lam thanh thuc. DT nhien, moi difa tre deu rat khac

nhau va ban can linh hoat v6i tC/ng dp
tuoi,
xem xet kinh
nghiem cua chfnh ban va nhCrng sy trp giup san c6 nhu ban
be va nhCng diJa tre khac, cung nhu sU Xxi tin va trudng thanh
cua con ban.
4.
Sir dung mot bang tuong tU cho ca be gai Ian be trai vi chung
ta khong the chac chan ky nang nao la can thiet chi cho con
gai hoac con
trai.
Vfdu:
Phillis va con gai cua c6 (10 tuoi) cung
xem Bang Tien bp viec nha va chpn mot ky nang
Xxi
ba nhom
ky nang khac nhau.
Nhom
ky
nang
Ky nang sir dung tien
Nauan
Oinh htfdng va di chuyen
Kynang
^
Lap mot tai khoan kiem tra
Chpn va chuan bi trai cay
tuoi
va rau xanh
Don xe buyt

Bang each iua chpn ba ky nang de hpc tap va phat
then,
tre
se khong bi qua tai, va c6 the dat dupc muc tieu rat nhanh. d
cuoi chupng nay, chung toi se giai thfch Ba yeu to giang day
de giup ban ve each dat dupe muc
tieu.
18
Nhufng
ky
nang cham
soc ca
nhan
'
Mang
do ngu ra
khu vile giat
la (2-4)
Don
dep do
chdi
(2-6)
Txl
thay quan
ao (2-4)
Chaidau(2-5)
Rika mat,
ma tay (2-5)
Danh rang
(2-5)

Don
dep
phong
ngu (2-8)
Mac quan
ao (3-6)
Chuan
bi
giildng
ngu (3-7)
Lam
sach,
cM
mong
tay,
mong
chan
(5-10)
Don
dep
phong
tim sau
khi
svL
dung
(6-10)
Goi
dau va say toe
(7-10)
chai

dau
(10-16)
Mua
do
dung
ca
nhan
(11-18)
Nhflng
ky
nang
bao
quan quan
ao
Lam
sach
tiii
dvfng
do
giat (trong
may
giat),
de
quan
ao ban vac ndi quy
dinh
(4-8)
Cat quan
ao
sach

(5-9) ,: ,: ; ,
Don
tu
dtfng
do
(6-14)
, ,,, ,
Don
nha ve
sinh
ca
nhan
(6-16)
Gap, chia
do
sach
da
giat
(8-16)
. ,
Phdi quan
ao ra
nang
(8-16)
Gap quan
ao gon
gang,
khong
de bi
nhan

(8-16)
19
Tij(
danh giay
(8-18) , ,
Giat quan
ao
bang
may
giat
(9-16)
Diang
may say
quan
ao (9-16) "''"^
Lam
sach ch6
dung
sd vai va
thiet
bi loc
trong
may giat
(10-16)
^Tu
mua
quan
ao (11-18)
Lam
sach ddn

gian
cac vet o
nhif
mau, dau, ca
phe, tra,
soda (12-18)
Giat giay vai/giay
mua dong (12-18)
_La
quan
ao (12-18) • ' - .,
.Giat
do lot, do lua hay len
hhng
tay (12-18)
^Ddm khuy
ao,
quan
(12-17)
Sap xep qu^n ao theo mau,
quin
ao ban,
loai
vai
(8-18)
Dua quan
ao vao may lam sach (doi v6i ao
quan
chuyen
giat

kho) . ,,,
Khau
va ddn
gian
(12-18)
Nhfing
ky
nang trong
gia
dinh
Lau
sach ban an (2-5) '
Lau
sach neu bi rdt do
uong,
chat long
(3-10)
Lam
sach cac vat
dung
(3-12)
Bay
ban an (3-7)
Don
ban an (3-13)
.Don
sach rac
trong
vxxbn
(4-10)

Rii
tham
nho (4-8) . •
20
Lam
sach vet ban
tren
tiidng
(4-12)
Lau
sach cac
canh
c^a (4-12)
Lau
sach man
hinh
ti-vi
va
gUdng
(4-8)
Cho vat
nuoi trong
nha an (5-10)
Lam
sach nha ve
sinh
(5-8)
Co bon
rxia
mat va voi tim (5-12)

Do rac (4-10)
Lam
sach
hien
nha,
hanh lang,
161 di (4-10)
Lam
sach va lau cac ghe
ngoi trong
nha (6-11)
Nhan biet
siJt
khac
nhau
va each sii
dung
cac
loai
may
hut bui
trong
nha (6-14)
Sii
dung
may
riia
bat (6-12)
Riia
va lau kho bat dia (6-12)

Lam
sach
lutdc
va cac
loai
ban
chai
(6-8)
Co nha tim (6-12)
Lau
san nha (6-13)
Su dung
may hut bui (7-12)
Lam
sach cho d cua vat
nuoi trong
nha
(cho,
meo )
va bat an cua
chung
(7-13)
XiJt
ly cac
manh giay
ghi tin
nhan dien thoai
(7-12)
Dung choi
va hot rac (8-12)

Hut
bui cac ghe hoc va ga (8-14)
Txidi
cac
loai
cay
trong trong
nha (8-14)
Tu6i
CO
(tham
c6) (8-14)
Biet
gap
chan
gon gang (8-14)
21
_
Biet
r^a xe
hdi
(c6 the la xe may) (8-16)
.Don
vvfdn
(9-13)
_Thay
ga
trai
giUdng
(10-13)

_Thay
bong den, c6
hieu
biet
cd ban ve
dien
nang
(10-15)
.Don
dep 16
sifdil
(10-15)
.Danh
bong cac do an
bing
sii va do bang bac
(11-15)
.Thay
cau chi
hoac
biet
ndi dat cau dao
dien
(11-18)
.Tra
dau vao cac cxia hi kho dau (12-18)
.Thay
vong dem (gioang) va
tui
chiLa

bui
cua may
hut
bui (12-15)
. cat, tia cay coi (12-18) ' " ' " '
cat
CO (12-16)
•'•tfe
:f*-s.«_ , 4
.
Danh
vec-ni cho do go (14-18) ""
.Lam
sach cac cvLa so (13-18)
.Biet
goi
dien
thoai
difdng
dai (13-17)
.
Biet
goi cac
cuoc
goi nvLdc ngoai (ma
ngildi
nhan
tra
tien)
(13-18)

.Thong
ong nifdc
thai
trong
nha bang hoa chat
hoac
pit-tong
(13-18)
.Biet
each lap khoa (14-18) ' „
.Biet
thay
day
dien
(14-18)
' L6
sudi:
O
phudng
Tay c6 16
sUcii
dung
cui
dot nen se can don 16 de
dam
bao ve
sinh.
22
_______
Lam

sach
ttfdng
(14-18) * , ;.
Lam
sach san nha (14-18)
Co sach nha
tarn
(14-18)
Thay
va
sijfa
voi nufdc (15-18)
_
Biet
CO
van de gi v6i cac
thiet
bi gia
dinh
(16-18)
Ky
nang
nau
an
Biet
nhiJng
nhom
thiic
an cd ban va gia
tri

dinh
diidng
cua cac nhom do (5-14)
Nhat
cac
loai
rau (6-16)
Pha
do uong (6-9)
Lam
banh
sandwich (6-12)
Pha
Slip
dong hop (7-12) ,,
^
,,
Doc cong
thiic
nau an (7-12)
Do
lUdng
chinh
xac (7-14)
Lam
thach
(7-12)
Dong
goi mot bi3a an
trUa

(de mang di an
trufa
ci
trifdng)
(7-12)
Luoc
triing
(7-13)
Ran,
op
trufng
(9-13)
Phan
biet
diidc
thiic
an an du:dc va
thijtc
an da
hong
(10-18)
Nadng
banh
tix
hot
pha sSn (10-14)
_ Nau cac
loai
rau dong goi sSn, rau dong
lanh

(10-13)
— Tronbot lam
banh
(10-17)
23
Doc cac
thanh phan dinh difdng
tren
nhan
cac
goi thiic pham
(10-15) <
Lap thvfc
ddn mot
bijta
an day du
dinh dUdng
(10-15)
Liia
chon va
chuan
hi cac
trai
cay
tvfdi
va rau
tifdi
(10-18)
Nudng
cac

loai banh
quy (10-16)
Lam
banh
xop,
banh
quy (11-17)
Lam
salad
tron
(11-15)
• •
, .
Lam
do
uong nong
(12-16) •
Nudng banh hamburger
(12-16)
Lam
mon bo bit tet (12-16) ' •
Nutdng
banh
my (12-17)
Lam
salad
hoa qua (13-15)
Don
sach
tuyet

dong
trong
tu
lanh
(12-18)
Lam
mon
thit
ham (14-18) ^
Lam
sach 16 vi song va 16 say (15-18) •
Thai
thit
(15-18)
Len
ke hoach va mua do an cho mot
tuan
(15-18)
Don
tu
lanh
hoac
tu dong (15-18)
Lam
mon
thit
quay
(15-18)
Ran
ga (16-18) •

" .* ,
/••
•>,
-
Nhflng
ky
nang
suf
dung tien
bac
Nhan
biet
cac
menh
gia
tien
(5-12)
Sii
dung
cac
khoan
tien
tieu
vat (5-12)
4
24
Doi
tien
va dem du so'
tien

doi (8-11)
So
sanh chat
liidng
va gia ca (8-12)
Tiet
kiem
hoac
kiem tra
cac
tai khoan ngan hang
(10-18)
Len
difdc
ke hoach chi
tieu
ddn
gian
(12-18)
.
Viet
chi
phieu
(14-18)
. Can
bang
so
thanh toan
(14-18)
Hieu

cac
loai
hoa ddn can
phai thanh toan:
tien
thue
nha,
dien, nif6c, dien thoai
(15-18)
Siuf
dung
the
tin dung dung
each (16-18)
Ky
nang
di
chuyen
va suf
dung
cac
phxidng tien
giao thong cong cong
Biet
doc dia chi (4-6)
Biet
so'
dien thoai
(4-6)
Lam

sach noi
that
ciia
xe hdi (8-14)
Don
xe
buyt
hoac
taxi
(8-16)
Biet
tra dau cho xe dap (9-14)
-
Siia
va
thay banh
xe dap (10-15)
RiJfa
xe hdi (10-17) ^
Doc ban do (7-14)
__ Do
xang
cho xe hdi (xe may) (15-18)
Kiem
tra dau may (15-18)
Lam
mat bo tan
nhiet
cua xe (16-18)
Bdm

lop xe (16-18)
Lai
xe (16-18)
25
Nhufng
ky
nang khac
j
Thtfc
hien
cac
cuoc
goi
khan
cap nhiJ goi
cap
ciiu,
canh
sat,
cilu
hoa
(5-12)
Hoc bdi
(5-14)
- '
Mudn
sach
tu:
thii
vien

(6-10)
—
Biet
nhufng bildc sd cufu
ddn
gian
(10-18)
Hieu
each sii
dung
thuoc
va
miic
do
nghiem trong
cua
viec
lam
dung
thuoc
(10-18)
Len
ke
hoach cho
mot
buEa
tiec nho
(12-18)
Treo
cac do

vat len
tUdng
(12-18)
Phan
biet d\idc
sU
khac
nhau
giiia
sdn cao su,
sdn
bong, sdn
go va
sdn phu
(12-18)
Quet sdn
mot
can phong
(12-18)
Danh
may
(14-18)
Thay
16
siidi
(16
dien)
hay
thay
bo

loc
dieu
hoa
khongkhi
(14-18)
Sap xep
don dep
nha
ciia
don
mxla
xuan
(15-18)
Lam sach binh
dun
niiolc
nong
va
goi thay
ga (16-18)
Lap
day
nhiing
16
tren tUdng
bSng
bgt
tret
(16-18)
Lam sach

cac
loai tham
(16-18) - •
LAP
KE
HOACH
DE
DAT
DLfOC
MUC TIEU
Lap
Bang
Tien
bo
viec nha
se
giiip thay
ro
nhiing
ky
nang
con ban
da
thanh thuc, nhuing
ky
nang can
diidc
cung
c6'
26

va nhiing
ky
nang
ma ban
muoh
tre can hoc.
Bang
nay
se
giup
ban
biet
bat
dau
t\i
dau de lap ra
nhiing
muc
tieu
cu the.
Hay xem xet
miic
do
trufcing thanh
cua
tre: Lieu
con
cua
toi
c6 the

thvfc
hien
dvfdc
ky
nang
nay xet ve mat
the
chat,
tinh than
va
tinh
cam hay
khong?
Xem xet
thdi
gian
yeu
cau:
Tre c6 qua ban
ron v6i
mot
lich
hoc day dac
c( trifdng,
16p hoc
khieu vii
hay la cac 16p hoc
nhac
khong?
Xem

xet t6i
nhiing
siic
ep
cong
viec
cua
chinh
cha me:
Lieu
ban c6 qua ban v6i
cong
viec
tai
cong
scf de
thu
xep
thdi
gian
day con
khong?
Hay
linh
hoat
v6i
ke
hoach
khi
cac

dieu
kien thay do'i.
, , ^ ^
Lich
hoc ci
trUdng,
cac ky
nghi
dong
va
nghi
he dai c6
the
la luc
danh
cho cac
chuyen
di va cac
hoat
dong
khac.
Hang
ngay,
hay chu
trong
vao
viec
duy
tri nhflng
cong

viec
thong
thiidng
hang
ngay
va
nhiing
ke
hoach
ddn
gian trong
v6ng
mot
ngay,
nhxjf lam
salad
tron
hay
kiem
tra
dau xe
hdi.
Co the
sii
dung
ky
nghi
de day con
nhiing
ky

nang
phiic
tap hdn
nhii
lam
vifdn,
doc ban do hay
may
va. Vao
thang
Sau, ban c6 the dat ra cac muc
tieu
va
len ke
hoach
day cac ky
nang
ban
dinh
long
ghep
vao
nhiing
tro
chdi
trong
mua he de tre hoc
nhieu
ky
nang

khac
nhau nhii tii
cham
soc ban
than,
lam
viec
nha, sxi
dung
tien
sii'ifa'i.
j^;*:^*
>.v'SAr*t
PHAT
TRIEN MOT MUC TIEU KHA THI
Mot
giao
vien
tap
sU
phan
nan ve
cong
viec
te
nhat
dat
muc tieu
cho cac hoc
sinh mdi.

Tuy
the,
c6
nhanh
chong
nhan
ra
rkng
qua
trinh
viet
ra
nhiing
muc
tieu
c6 the
27
lam
sang
ro
pham
vi cua muc
tieu. Cong
viec
trd nen de
dang hdn,
c6
nhan
ra
rang

mot muc
tieu se
de
dang
dat
dUdc neu
bao
gom
ba
yeu to'giao due
sau
day:
(1)
hanh
vi
mong muo'n;
(2)
nhiing dieu kien can;
(3)
tieu chuan dUdc
mong ddi.
Ba
dieu
nay c6 the ap
dung
tai gia
dinh.
Ban
khong
can

phai viet
ra
nhiing
muc
tieu
va ke
hoach
nhu
cac
giao
vien, nhung
neu ban c6 van de
v6i
viec
dat
dufdc
muc tieu
cua
minh thi
se tot
hdn
neu
nhxi
ban
quay
lai
nghien ciiu
ba
yeu to' nay
de

biet minh
da bo
Id dieu gi.
Cac hanh
dong,
dieu kien
va
tieu
chuan
diJa
ra
thUdng
da
dang
de phu hdp v6i do
tuoi
cua tre va do kho cua ky
BA Y^U
T6
GIANG
DAY
Viec
se dUdc
thUc
hien
la
gi?
, ,:,;
Mark
se tau don

phbng
khdch.
Thiet
bj
can
dung
cho cong viec
la
gi?
Mark
se
dung
khan
lau va
binh
xit
hieu
"Maid
Basket"
detam
bong
do vat.
Viec
nay dUdc
thUc
hien
khi
nao?
Viec
lau don se

duac
thuc
hien
sau
biia
sang
ngay
thu
Bay.
Viec
do
thac
hien
the nao
la
tot?
Ai se kiem tra ket
qua cong viec?
Me se
thinh
thodng
Idem
tra va
khong
thay
con bid
tren
cac do vat
D>'
=^ O

Q^
-fi)
3
(Q
3"
Bl'
3!
,
<D>-:
c
:
H
C
o
C
3
28
nang.
Vi
du,
lau bui mot can
phong rong
(va it do dac)
vcii
cac do dac
theo
kieu dang hien
dai
khong doi
hoi stf

trUdng
thanh
cua tre hay ky
nang gio'ng
nhii
lau bui
cho
mot
can
phong
voti
nhieu mai vom
va do
trang
tri.
Khong
ke tdi
tinh
chat
cong
viec,
neu
mot diia
tre
hieu
ro
nhiem
vu,
biet
svL

dung thiet
bi can
thiet, biet
thdi
gian
cu the
hoan thanh
cong
viec
va
biet
ket qua
cuoi cung phai
la
gi,
thi thanh
cong
gan
nhU
la
chac
chin. Neu
ban
noi
ro
rang
y
minh thi
tre
thiidng

se
lam dung nhuf
the.
S\i dung bang
nay se
giup
ban
tinh
den ba yeu
to'can
thiet
de dat
dUdc
muc
tieu
de ra.
BA Y^U
TO
GIANG
DAY
^
3-
Bl'
^
O 3
•o>"
<
(Q
•a)>
(Q

3
<D>
C
C
0)>.
3
if
Viec
se
dUdc
thUc
hien
ia
gi?
Thiet
bj
can
dung
cho cong viec
la
gi?
Viec
nay
dUdc
thuc
hien
khi
nao?
Viec
do

thuc
hien
the nao la
tot?
Ai se
kiem
tra
ket qua cong viec?
>
29
-mm''"
'
NHITNG
VI DU VE VIEC DAT MUC TIEU
^
>
• ; ^
NhQng
VI
du
dixdi
day se lam ro cho
viec
sii dung hieu
qua ba yeu to'
giao
due tren. Vicky quyet dinh
ring
con
gai Shirley 8 tuoi cua c6 se biet

each
don ban an, lau
chui cac vat dung trong nha va nho c6 cho nhiing luong
hoa trong vUdn, do la nhiing ky nang ma c6 be can biet
trong
ba thang t6i. Vi Vicky phai di lam ca
ngay
nen c6
se day con gai cac ky nang nay vao m6i
thil
Bay. Trong
khi
chd con gai
t\i
16p hoc dan
piano
ve nha, Vicky noi
v6i
CO
be: "Shirley, dao nay con da giiip me rat nhieu
viec
nha va dang lam nhutng
viec
do rat tot, me nghi
con da san
sang
de hoc them mot vai
cong
viec
mdi. Me

dang nghl tdi ba
viec.
Con thich
chon
viec
nao de
thik
trudc? Don ban an bQa toi, c6 the trang tri nen va hoa
txxai
de ban an dep va lung
linh
hdn; nho c6 cho luong
hoa d san trUdc nha minh, moi tuan lam mot
it;
hay con
muon hoc
each
lau chCii cac vat dung trong
phong
khach
bang
binh xit lam
bong?"
Vicky noi ve cac
cong
viec
nay
v6i ve rat hap dan, sau do c6 de con gai tu
dxXa
ra lua

chon.
Vi Vicky biet con gai co can hoc ky nang nao nen
CO
dua ra mot muc tieu ro rang de dam bao c6 ca ba yeu
to
giao
due da neu.
:' ^.^^
:f
iii-i
.I'l^i.^
Shirley quyet dinh se hoe
each
nho c6 cho eac luong
hoa, vi the hai me eon kiem mot sdi day de chia nho dien
tich
mieng dat khoang 1,2m' ra. Khi c6 be biet nho co
theo
tijfng
khoanh dat thi
cong
viec
dvTdc
hoan
tat. Co lam
viec
Cling
con gai vao hai
thii
Bay dau tien de dam bao

30
rang hoa khong bi nho lin v6i co. Sau nam tuan, nhutng
luong hoa trong rat dep va chi ckn don mot chut vao moi
thxi
Bay. Vicky bao Shirley
ring
nhiJng luong hoa trong
that
dang yeu va
cong
viec
ma co be
hoan
thanh that tuyet
vdi.
Thinh thoang, Vicky lai trifc tiep ciing lam v6i co be
mot
liie
de khich le eon gai.
Ban muoh dat muc tieu ren luyen cho
diia
con
trai
10
tuoi
ciaa
minh. Cau be da kha thanh thuc trong
viec
cham
soc ban than va san

sang
lam mot so'
viec
nho,
nhii
don
ban an va hut bui, nhifng
phong
ngu ciia cau thi luon btfa
bon va cau lai to ra thich nau an. Hai muc tieu cd ban d
day la giiip cau don dep
phong
ngu gon
gang
va hoe mot so'
ky
nang nau nufdng cd ban. Hay dat hai hay ba muc tieu
cu the,
ngkn
ban co the
hoan
thanh trong
vong
mot thang.
Bi
kip d day la dat ra cac
cong
viec
co the
hoan

thanh
bang
each
hoi
"Viec
gi co the de dang thiic hien ma lai gan gui
v6i
cac muc tieu chinh kia?" Cac muc tieu eo the la:
Phong
ngu
• Lam mot
bang
thanh tich cho
viec
don giifdng va
don
phong.
• Giiip ngifdi 16n mot Ian mot tuan.
• Sdn lai
phong
ngu cua cau be.
•••uU
nM.
' Chuyen may khau va vai v6c ra khoi
phong
cua cau. i
31
Bep i
iit'lr
• Hay

cung
nhau lam mon ca ngvt vdi banh mi
sandwich.
• Chuan bi mon
salad
vdi xa lach
xoan.
!
• Hudng din cau
each
lam banh tii hot tron sin.
Khi
difa ra nhiJng muc tieu nay, hay
chSc
chin ban
diia
tren ba yeu
to'giao
due tren, vi the ban va con
trai
c6
the
cung
hieu ro nhQng gi diidc trong ddi, nhQng do dung
can thiet va
thdi
gian cau se thvfc hien
viec
do. Hay nhd
rang dieu nay c6 the diidc ghi chinh thlic vao giay

hoac
ciing
CO
the chi can trao doi bing mieng.
Tiep
tuc dat cac muc tieu
Hau het moi ngiidi deu dat muc tieu
tuin
va thang tai
ndi
lam
viec,
vay sao
chung
ta khong dat muc tieu tUdng
t\i
tai
nha?
Khi c6 muc tieu lau dai day tre lam
viec
nha,
ban
CO
the dat muc tieu
theo
nam va
theo
quy. "Mua he
nay toi se bit dau day con gai
each

khau va". Hay de tre
tham gia vao nhiing
quyet
dinh nay.
Viec
ep
buoc
hay ra
lenh chi khien tre bat hdp tac va
chohg
doi. "'
Hay de tre tham gia vao
viec
dat ra cac muc tieu ca
nhan. Mot ong bo" thudng hoi cac eon cua minh vao moi
toi
thil
Sau hang tuan cau hoi: "Ke
hoach
cuoi
tuan nay
cua cac con la gi?" Ong noi rang
viec
do phai mat nhieu
thang, nhung gid
chung
da it xem
ti-vi
hdn va tap trung
1

32
vao nhiJng
viec
ma
chung
"thiic sut" muoh lam. Tai nang
la
"nhiing sd thich"
dvfdc
nuoi
dUdng.
Viec
dat muc tieu
se giup tai nang phat
trien.
Khi
doc
cuoh
sach
nay, ban
diing
cam thay ganh nang
trach nhiem vi eon
dang
khong lam nhiJng
viec
nh\i y ban
muoh. Day khong phai mot xa hoi khong tifcing, tham
chi
cGng

khong phai nha
Monson
hay MeCullough. Neu
ban nghi rang
nhuEng
diia tre nha chiing toi khong can
quat thao, thiic
giuc
hay khong co troh
viec
thi ban da
nham. Can c6
thdi
gian de be gay thoi
liidi
bieng
va cau
tha.
Nhieu bac cha me to ra
ngac
nhien vi tdi nha chiing
toi
ma nha
cvLa
be bon, chiing toi
dang
quat nat bon tre
de chiing lam
viec.
Neu c6

difdc
mot danh
sach
nhiing
muc tieu ro rang va thiic hien tCrng muc tieu mot, chiing
ta
se khong con phai lo
ling
ve moi
thil
trong cving mot
liic.
Muc tieu se lam giam
siic
ep. Nhiing doi khi tre thiJc
hien
cong
viec
va chiing ta nhin thay sii tien bo;
nhii
Ian
dau
Melea
lam thanh
cong
mon
triing
op la tuyet dep
hay khi Wes noi: "De con
riia

xe cho me nhe". That tuyet
khi
chiing ta tham dii
cuoc
hop phu huynh va cac thay
CO
noi ring con cai cua chiing ta khong he
nhiit
nhat khi
phai
trinh
bay mot van de trvrdc ca 16p hay chiing
chang
he lo sd khi bit tay vao mot dii an mdi. Con cai chiing
ta
khong dat tdi sii
hoan
hao nhiing chiing khong phai
la
nhiing c6 cau nhu Annie. Qua
trinh
dat muc tieu nay
that
siJ
thii
vi va mang lai ket qua.
Tre can
thUc
hanh nhieu Ian mot
cong

viec
nao do, doi
khi
tham chi la hoc lai mot vai diem. Difa ra nhieu
liia
33
chon:
"B67me
phai sdn
xong
trvfdc khi cdn
bao tdi
Charlie
a,
nen con c6 the
lam
mon
sandwich
cho
biJa
triia
giiip
bo'/me
dUOc
khong?"
Chung
cung
can
hoc
each

kien
tri
v6i
mot nhiem
vu
mdi.
Do se la
liic mot
bang
ngoi
sao
(bang
dung
de
khich
le
tre, khi tre
hoan
thanh mot
viec
thi
se
dan mot ngoi
sao vao
mot 6 tren
bang)
hay phUOng
phap
phan hoi
bang

hinh anh
khac
c6
hieu qua. Hay nhd
ring
triidng
hoc
quan trong nhat
ma con
ban tham
gia
chinh
la
ci nha. Hay
dong
vien
va
khich
le
mot
each
thoai mai,
hay tan thudng
ngay
ca
vdi mot thanh tich nho. Tinh tii
ton CO diidc thong
qua qua
trinh
lam

viec
thuan thuc
d
tre.
"Shirley nay,
luc con nho c6
nhiJng luong
hoa, me
cam thay
nhii
c6 mot
ngUdi
phu
nii ni3a
dang
giup
me
vay!" Hay
Ikng
nghe
khi con ban bay to cam nhan
ve
that
bai hay thanh
cong.
Hay dua
vao
nhiing thanh
cong
con

ban CO
dUdc
trUdc kia khi
ban
khich
le
chung
dat
dudc
nhiing
muc tieu trong tUdng lai.
I
1
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J

'Mi
•
*
•
»
•
! '
y , f i n tf 111 ^ 'I I it 1 't /
J •
CHU'dNG2
;^<fj '-^ '
Hieu biet ve "mCia hoc tap'
THOI
DIEM

DAY CHO TRE
VE KE
HOACH
,
• '(1)'
Thdi
diem
tot
nhat
de day mot ky
nang
cu the cho tre
la
khi
nao?
Cac
giai
doan
hoc tap cua tre c6 the
dUdc
chia
ra
lam
ba
giai
doan.
Cac ong bo ba me la
nhiing
giao
vien gioi,

c6 cd
hoi diia
ra cho
tre phiidng
phap
ren
luyen hay nhat
ma
tre
se
luon
svL
dung. Hieu
ro
nhiing
giai
doan
hoc
tap
nay se
giiip
cac bac cha me
tap trung
vao mot
ke
hoach
hieu qua
de
svL
dung toi

da
32.234
gid
ma
ho
phai
day con
trong
suot
18 nam ci
nha.
Ba
giai
doan
hoc
tap
do
la:
' , . ,
35
1.
2.
3.
Giai
doan
Mua Xuan: 2-5 tuoi
Giai
doan
Mua He: 5 - 12 tuoi
Giai

doan
Mua Thu: 13-18 tuoi
GIAI
DOAN MUA XUAN - CO
DUOC
SU TU
TIN,
BIET
VANG hdl VA BIET LAM NH0NG
CONG
VIEC CO BAN
HANG NGAY
(Ttr
2 - 5 TUOI)
Dac
trifng
cua giai
doan
dau tien la "de con lam" cua
cac be
trxidc
khi t6i trudng. Day la
thdi
diem tao lap nen
tang cho
tinh
yeu thildng, sii
quyet
tam va svf tu tin "con
CO

the lam diidc". Tre chii
dong
va til
nguyen
lam. Khi
nhQng cau be, c6 be chila t6i tuoi den trildng nay bay
to
mong
muon lam dieu gi do, hay khuyen khich be tut
lam mac du khien ban ton nhieu
thdi
gian hdn. Neu tre
muon
r\ia
bat, don
sach
gat tan va lau ban, thi hay de
chung
lam. Phan thUdng cho sil kien nhin nay se
tcti
khi
dila tre 16n hdn va ban muon
chung
lam nhung
viec
do. Sarah
Monson,
gan hai tuoi, quan sat thay me. Sue,
lau
bui

bang
mot
chiec
tat cii. Vai
ngay
trvfdc do ho da
di
tham bao tang
nghe
thuat thanh pho va nhin thay
cuoc
trinh
diln
cua Cac chii roi pho V^ng
(Sesame
Street
Muppets)^
' Cac chu ro'i pho' Viing la mot chUdng trinh truyen hinh My danh
cho thieu nhi, md dUdng cho nhiing chucfng trinh pha tron giao due
va
giai tri.
36
Dieu nay khien Sarah ket hdp ca hai dieu ma c6 be
thay lai v6i nhau
bang
each
dec
chiec
bit tat vao tay va
noi: "Hay nhin chii Ro'i lau bui cua con nay." De tang

cildng tri
sang
tao cua c6 be, Sue da ve mot khuon mat
chii
roi
bang
vai net ddn gian len
chiec
bit tat. Stf
til
tin
cua Sarah tang len. Do la tro chdi lau
sach
cac
chan
ghe,
chan
ban va cac thanh cua
chiec
dan
piano
vdi ngiJdi ban
ro'i
nho cua c6 be. Cii cho la c6 be khong lam diidc het
cong
viec
lau chM nhUng c6 be da c6 kinh nghiem trd
giiip
me that vui va tich
cilc.

Nen tang
cong
viec
da dildc
hinh
thanh. •,:,,>,,i,,,fH;i;
i-'ij.
JO-i);,;:;:,!.
Trong khi xay dilng
s\l
til
tin cho tre, c6 mot bai hoc
quan trong cho tre chila t6i
trildng,
do la:
nghe
Idi.
Nghe
Idi
CO
dildc
tvL
viec
tuan thu nhiing yeu cau thilc te. Khi
ban noi da tdi gid cat do chdi, thi ban can phai thay bon
tre
thilc hien nhiing gi ban yeu cau,
ngay
ca khi dieu do
CO

nghla la ngilng
cong
viec
cua ban mot chiit va giiip dd
tre.
Sil
nghe
Idi c6 the dildc day do.
Ngay
ca bon tre nho
Cling can phai biet rang gia dinh c6 quy dinh.
Tonya
va
Sally nghi rang se rat thich neu thao giay va tat ra, roi
chay
chan
tran
khSp
ndi. Do la mot tro vui c6 the
chap
nhan
dUdc
trong miia he, nhilng v6i nhiing
ngay
dong
gia lanh thi khong the dildc.
Ngay
ca khi m6i hai tuoi,
cac
CO

be
cung
can hieu mot quy tSc trong
thdi
tiet gia
lanh:
"Khi cac con tu y bo giay va tat thi con phai ngoi va
chdi d tren giildng." Dieu nay c6 the dkn tdi hai phan ling
khac
nhau, cha me din tre tdi giildng ngu va dat chiing
len do. Cac quy tac da dildc lam ro. Nhiing Idi giang giai
37
se
d\i6c
diia ra cho ca hai c6 be. Chung se difdc cam nhan
san nha va tUdng lanh gia
bang
hai ban tay,
dUdc
nhac
nhd r^ng khong xuo'ng ho bdi vao mua
dong,
va ao len,
ao
khoac
se
dUdc
mac vao nhiJng
ngay
lanh. Lieu the c6

la
qua nhieu
khong?
Khong he. Nhiing Idi ay la khong
thiia
bdi vi do khong phai la la ray, doa nat hay lam mat
tvf
tin nhif khi
nghe
cau: "Di
ngay
giay vao." Sif hiidng
din
diing miic va an can se giup cac c6 be hoc
each
nghe
Idi.
Ve
viec
kien
tri
khi day tre vang Idi c! giai
doan
nay,
cha me nen hieu
ring
tre khong hinh dung ra
diJdc
mot
khai

niem
trvfu
tifdng
nhii
"thdi
tiet
gia lanh". Cac c6 be
can dilde giang giai ve dieu nay. Day la
thdi
diem rat can
sU nhan nai, an can. Cling nen biet rang tre thiJdng can
sii
giup dd cua cha me va lam
theo
nhiJng chi dan cho t6i
khi
dUdc
6 den 7 tuoi. ,,
|
, ,. (.j.^ ,,,,, :,„j,
Tiep
theo,
cac ban nho cua chiing ta se hoc nhiJng
khai
niem
ccf
bin ve sil ngan n^p, nhu don giUdng ngu,
cat gon do chdi va mot
thdi
gian bieu cho cac

viec
cham
soc ca nhan,
nh\X
tarn,
danh rang va chai dau. NhQng
viec
nay can phai lam hang
ngay.
Mot
sang
kien khuyen
khich
tre
giijt
cac thoi
quen
hang
ngay
diidc giai thich tai
trang
120. Tro chdi cac
ngon
tay lam
viec
vat.
GIAI
DOAN MUA HE - Hl/CiNG DAN, THANH
CONG
VA ST;

KIEN
NHAN (5 - 12 TUOI) ^ ^ ,
Khi
con cua ban 16n hdn,
chuyen
sang
giai
doan
Mua He
khoang ttf 5 tuoi trd len,
viec
luyen tap se tap trung vao:
38
1.
2.
3.
Day cac
cong
viec
cu the r
Tang cvfdng cam nhan ve thanh
cong
'
Yeu cau thvic hien
cong
viec
thiJdng xuyen
Tre van duy tri
viec
cham

soc ve sinh hang
ngay
va
don dep
phong
ngu d giai
doan
Mua Xuan, nhifng gid
chiing da san
sang
cho
viec
huan luyen cu the nhiing
viec
vat
khac
trong gia dinh. Ban se thay nhiing cau be c6 be
tii
5 tdi 12 tuoi la nhiing
cong
nhan tuyet vdi nhat. Do
kho trong
cong
viec
ciaa
chiing se thay doi lien tuc trong
suo't
bay nam nay, nhung day chinh la giai
doan
huan

luyen quan trong. Sau khi vao hoc cap hai, tre se phai
danh nhieu
thdi
gian cho
viec
lam hai tap d
triidng,
chdi
cac mon the thao, tham gia cac hoat
dong
xa hoi va cac
boat
dong
nhom. v ^ , :„,,^,,., .,
Gia dinh McCullough hit dau
viec
huan luyen cd ban
vad liic 5 tuoi, ho gidi thieu v6i cac con nhiing
cong
viec
cua buoi
sang
va budi to'i. Tre lam
viec
vat trong ca tuan,
hoc
each
thiic hien mot
viec
thuan thuc triidc khi

chuyen
sang
viec
khac. Nhiing cam
giac
thanh
cong
bat nguon
tii
viec
giii
viing nhiing
h\idc
hoc tap nho, hay dam bao
rang ba yeu to'
giao
due (hanh
dong,
thdi
gian, thiet bi
can thiet va tieu
ehuan)
dufde
dap
ling,
diia ra nhieu cd
hoi thiic hanh ciing nhu nhiing
Idi
khen cho tre.
Viec

thUc
hien thiidng xuyen la yeu cau b&t
buoc
va tre can nem
trai
hau qua xay ra
theo
quy luat
tii
nhien
hoac
theo
logic
neu
cong
viec
do khong
dUdc
hoan
thanh.
Viec
kiem tra
thudng xuyen va
theo
doi cua cha me la can thiet.
39
Vincent dvfa ra cho chiing toi mot vi du ve hvf6ng din,
cam
giac
thanh

cong
va luyen tap svf kien tri d giai
dean
Miia
He, triicfng hdp ciia con
trai
c6,
Erin
- cau be thUdng
quen
cho chu cho
uo'ng
nxXdc. Co rat nghiem
tiic,
bo da
vao cac coc tren ban an. Ca gia dinh c6 hit dau tu hop va
chuan bi an toi, con c6
chic
chin
viec
c6 dinh lam se difdc
con tuan
theo.
Erin
nhan ra coc cua cau trong rong. "0,
me, me
quen
bo da cho con," cau be phan nan. Vincent
nhe nhang dap lai: "6, me nghi vi Barnie (ten chu cho)
khong CO n\Xdc

uong
thi v6i con thieu mot coc nxXdc trong
biia
an
cQng
khong qua quan trong." Khong can phai noi
them.
Erin
nhanh
chong
chay
ra cho con cho
uong
nxidc.
Sxi
dung
thdi
gian irUdc luc an toi de nhic nhd
Erin
to ra
rat
hieu qua, bcii vi
Erin
difdc huan luyen cho cho
uong
nxidc hang
ngay
va
cong
viec

do thi chi ton cua cau nam
phiit
thoi. Trong khi
Erin
cho con cho
uong
nufdc
thi coc
cua cau da diidc bo da va do day nufdc. Khi
quay
vao nha,
vdi
cong
viec
da
hoan
tat, cau c6
ngay
hai phan thiidng
- mot cam
giac
dudc
chap
nhan va cam
giac
thanh
cong.
Day chinh la mot
kinh
nghiem dang nhci. Mot diia tre it

hdp tac hdn
Erin
c6 the tii choi mang
nvfdc
cho con cho
ngay
luc do. Neu vay, chi can
theo
cac
buf6c
thong qua mot
suy luan
logic,
de cau ta an cdm ma khong c6 nxidc
uong.
De dat diidc hieu qua cao hdn, luc do hay chqn mot loai
nxidc
ngot
ma cau
xia.
thich roi rot cho moi ngildi,
trCf
cau.
Khi
gan tdi sinh nhat Ian
thii
12, tre se trd nen txi
lap hdn. Chung da
trai
qua cam

giac
thanh
cong
khi
hoc hoi
dvfdc
nhieu ky nang mdi, chiing da lam
viec
40
theo
nhiing nguyen tic cd ban thong thUcing ma it can
den sii
theo
sat cua cha me hdn, chiing da c6 dtfdc sii
tii
tin nhat dinh va sSn
sang
chuyen
sang
giai
doan
MuaThu.
GIAI
DOAN MUA THU - DOC LAP VA TRACK NHIEM
(TIT
13 - 18 TUOI)
Giai
doan
Miia Thu tu: tuoi 13, tre rat thich noi v6i cau
dac

triing
"Con c6 the lam diidc
viec
do." Do
viec
xay
dung diia tren sii
triidng
thanh tii giai
doan
Miia Xuan
va giai
doan
Miia He, nen
tinh
tii lap va trach nhiem
dong
vai tro manh me hdn. Hay danh nhu c^u phat
trien
nay cho
tinh
txl lap, hay hifdng dan va khuyen khich con
cai dang d
tudi
thanh thieu nien doc het cac
sach
hii6ng
d&n
va cac
cuon

cam nang, de tdng hdp
viec
dao tao cac
ky
nang chuan hi cho
viec
chon
nghe
va vao ddi. Hay de
chiing ban thao nhieu ve
viec
Ixia
chon
muc tieu,
bang
each
xem xet ky Bang Tien bo
viec
nha cCing nhau. Hau
het
thdi
gian ciia chiing la hoc ci triJdng, tham gia cac
hoat
dong
xa hoi, ra nhap cac nhom
dong
trang
liia.
Dieu
nay la tat nhien, vi nhiing

boat
dong
nay la mot phan
quan trong de tre trUdng thanh. Nhiing diia tre nay can
phai
thanh thuc cac ky thuat lam
viec
hdn cac em nho.
Tuy the, chiing van can c6 mot so' trach nhiem lam
viec
nha thiidng xuyen
hoac
chiing c6 the dxia ra mot ket luan
sai lam
ring
"Khi ban ron, ban c6 ly do chinh dang de
chang
lam gi d nha ca." Co nhieu ngiidi 16n sin long lap
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day
cuoc
song
cua ho bang cac boat dong ben ngoai de
bao bien cho
tinh
trang it lam
viec
nha.
•
Khi

danh gia nhu cau va kha nang cua con ban, hay
tiep tuc diia ra nhiJng cd hoi lam
viec
hap din, nhuf cac
bai
hoc nhac, danh may, lam cac
cong
viec
lien quan den
do go,
nghe
thuat va thu
cong,
may va, sika chiJa may
moc (ddn gian), nhiJng
cong
viec
rat
hiiu
ich ci nha va d
trifdng.
Hay
tinh
den ca
viec
len thiic ddn va
liia
chon
th\ic
pham. Se c6 bat ngd thu vi

nhii
lam salad hip cai
thay vi salad xa lach xoan. Hif6ng din phai c6 ca cd hoi
dvfdc
sijf dung tien bac, thong qua cac khoan trd cap (tieu
vat) va tien l\idng
(difdc
tra do lam
viec
vat ci nha). Day
cung la luc thich hdp de ban day cho tre cac bufdc lau don
mot
each
bai ban, nh\i lau don bep hay lau 16 vi
song.
Mot
cau be 16 tuoi c6 the chon mot trong rat nhieu cac
may lam sach 16 vi
song
tren thi trildng, doc ky cac hu6ng
dan sii dung va thilc hien cac bu6c lam sach
theo
hu6ng
dan. Trong Ian dau tien, cha me nen
theo
sat con va sin
long giup dd khi chung can.
Doi khi trao doi giufa cha me va con cai dang tuoi
thanh
thieu nien khong difdc hieu qua, nen hay nhd sii

trd
giup cua ong ba, cd di, cau, mot ngifdi Idn dang tin
cay hay mot ngiidi ban cua con cung dang ci tuoi thanh
thieu
nien nhung c6 hieu biet hdn, hvfoing din cho con
ban vai ky nang can thiet. That dang
ngac
nhien
ve sU
anh
hUdng va phUdng phap ma ban c6
dUdc
khi biet ro
muc tieu cua
minh,
ngay
ca khi nhd svf giup dd cua ngUdi
khac de hoan thanh muc tieu nay.
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Sue thay ring may diia con tuoi thanh thieu nien cua
minh
hao hiing giup dd cha me lam
viec
nha hdn khi
nghe
thay mot ngufdi 16n dang
kinh
trong noi: "Cha cua
bac noi v6i bac ring bac can phai giup me don dep bat
dla cho tdi khi bac c6 the chay viidt dufdc cha. Cha bac

la
mot ngUdi chay cii khoi va khi bac thing cha minh,
bac chi mdi 16
tuoi.
Nhiing vao
thdi
gian do bac da dii
trifcing
thanh de khong ngai giup me
rxia
bat dia." Sue
dean
ring cac con cua c6 cam thay neu chung phan nan
ve
viec
giup me thi dieu do am chi chiing chila trufdng
thanh
nhtf chung muo'n the hien.
Khong mot thieu nien nao c6 diidc moi ky nang va
hieu
biet de tranh difdc nhiing kho khan ciia tuoi trUdng
thanh,
nhiing neu chiing t\i tin vao kha nang cua minh,
chung CO the hoc hoi them, va neu biet
dvfdc
nhutng dieu
cd ban de ton tai thi chung se tiep tuc hoc hoi de tien bo
va trvfdng thanh. Chiing ta thiidng dufa ra it Idi noi khich
le hdn vao do tuoi thanh thieu nien vi do tuoi nay dang
boc 16

tinh
doc lap manh me, nhifng chiing ciing mu6'n
difdc
cong
nhan nhieu nhif bat cii diia tre nao khac. Sau
khi
Maria, 15
tuoi,
da lau chui sach se phong tim
dudi
tang, me c6 be da ghi mot manh
giay
d tren tiidng la:
"That la tuyet vdi khi
dxiOc
vad can ph6ng nay." Horn sau,
Maria vd phan nan dang yeu the nay: "Me, cai manh
giay
nay d dau ra
vay?
Sang
nay con da ton nhieu
thdi
gian
trong ph6ng nay hdn
ngay
hom qua day." Chiing ta ai
ciing thich difdc khen nhieu hdn nhiing gi chiing ta dat
dudc, may diia d do tuoi nay ciing the.
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MUA
XUAN, MUA HE VA MUA THU : ' -
ThUdng thi do tuoi ban bat dau day tre hoc cac ky nang
lam
viec
nha khong qua quan trong, mien la ban bat
dau day
theo
mot 16
trinh
ddn gian, sau do chuyen
sang
nhiing
viec
khac
ngay
cang
chi
tiet
va kho hdn. Co rat
nhieu
tinh
huong
khac
nhau de lap ra mot hiidng dan
khat
khe. Vi du, Annie d do tuoi 20 can hoc ky nang nau
an cd ban, mot
cong
viec

ma mot diia tre
khac
c6 the da
biet lam tu! khi 11
tuoi.
6 nha, chung ta can phai
linh
boat
va thifdng xuyen danh gia lai tiing
d\ia
tre, hay dam
bao rang moi ky nang
dUdc
giang day la can
thiet,
va
neu
CO
the, muc tieu dat ra can phai dat difdc. Sau khi
phat
trien
thong qua ba giai
doan
nhU
tren,
con tre can
dufdc
chuan bi san
sang
de do'i mat v6i nhiJng cdn bao va

nhiing
thach thdc cua the gi6i ngifdi tnidng thanh. ''
NHCTNG
NHU CAU CO BAN CUA CON NGUOl
Lam
cha me, chiing ta luon co' g&ng het siic de thoa man
nhiing
nhu cau cua con tre. Chung ta nuoi diidng chung
khong bi doi khat, cung cap cho d cung
nhiJ
quan ao de
chung
dvfdc
an toan.
Nhin
chung, khi nhiJng nhu cau vat
chat va dieu kien an toan
dUdc
dap
iing,
thi mot nhu cau
khac
ngay
cang
gia tang, do la
viec
nhan manh vac nhu
cau thugc ve va nhu cau cam thay diigc ton trong. Nhu
cau diidc thugc vela s\l phat
trien

cam
giac
an toan, co
dudc
mot ndi
choh
va cam
giac
ban than la thanh vien
cua mot nhom hay tham gia vao mot ke
hoach.
No cung
1
m
bao gom ca sii thoa man nhu cau. Nhu cau
dudc
ton trong
de cap t6i mong muo'n diidc cam thay thoai mai, co
dudc
sU ton trong cai toi va sii
cong
nhan cua
ngitdi
khac. Nhu
cau
du:dc
ton trong co the dildc chia nho nhvf sau:
1.
Trai
nghiem m6i

2.
Dvfdc
cong
nhan
3. Cd hoi de phan hoi
No l\fc ma con tre co'
gang
de dap
ijfng
dvidc nhu cau
thugc ve va nhu cau diidc ton trgng rat 16n, ca hai deu
thong qua nhiJng hanh
dong
ca tich ciic l^n tieu ciic.
Nhieu
trifdng
hdp kho thich nghi cua tre difdc cho la
do dap
ling
khong du hai nhu cau nay. Trong
cuo'n
sach
nay, chung toi khong co' ging giai quyet nhijEng
trifdng
hdp kho thich nghi
hoac
bat ky cac van de xa hoi hay the
chat nao co the xay ra trong mot gia dinh. NhiJng van
de
nhif

the doi hoi mot sii trd giup
khac
va nhiing
tii
van
chuyen mon.
Tuy nhien, chiing toi tin rSng qua
trinh
chuan bi
cho con ban bii6c vao the gi6i ngiidi trvfdng thanh, huan
luyen va de chiing c6 that nhieu
trai
nghiem
khac
nhau
v6i
cong
viec
nha, co the thoa man cac nhu cau thugc ve
va diigc ton trgng. That tuyet khi cam thay ban
thuoc
ve
(ndi
nao do). Mot be
trai
12 tuoi da noi: "Tre con nen giiip
dd
viec
nha bdi vi do la nha cua chiing ta va chiing ta can
phai

CO
trach nhiem
cham
soc." Trong
cuoc
dieu tra 250
tre
em ma chiing toi da tien hanh, nhiing bieu hien cam
45
giac
la mot phan cua gia dinh xuat hien thvfdng xuyen.
Trong mot the gidi vdi nhip
song
gap gap nhtf hien nay,
khi
ma
ca
cha va me deu di lam, bon tre phai lufdt qua
cac bai hoc, vdi nhxing ddi hoi
tii
cong
dong
va
cac
boat
dong
d
triidng,
tre em cam nhan
dUdc

nhu cau minh can
phai tham gia lam
viec
nha. Sii tham gia khien
chung
cam thay minh la mot thanh vien tich
ciic
va khong the
thieu
trong gia dinh.
Nhu
cau muon diidc coi trong,
difdc
dam bao khi tre
CO
them mot ky nang mdi.
Su
thudng xuyen
va
phong
phii
cua cac
cong
viec
d nha la v6 tan. Vi du, len thuc ddn
va nau an
c6
the dan tvL mot qua tning
luoc
tdi

viec
lam
mot mon
triing
6'p la
ngon
tuyet vdi.
Viec
cong
nhan
ngay
mot siJ trd giup cua tre
c6
the the hien
bSng
nhiing cau
noi tich
ciic,
cac
bang
va
cac
tro chdi.
Co
the dila ra Idi
khen ngdi cho mot thanh
tilu
that sii,
nhii
khi tre thay

diidc sii tien bo deu dan cua minh tren Bang Tien bo.
dung ky nang len ke
hoach
trong hoi
dong
gia dinh c6 the
mang lai nhieu cd hoi de tre diia ra cac gdi
y
hoac
nhiing
phan hoi tich
ciic
Nhiing dieu nay giiip giai
quyet
nhu
cau
mong
muon
dUdc
phan hoi. Cam
giac
an toan, tin cay
se
CO
dudc
tii
viec
hoc hoi nhiing ky nang mdi. Thdi gian
ban
cCing

con xay diing nhiing ky nang nay va khen ngdi
nhiing
no
lilc cua
chung
nhuf
da
thao luan trong
cuon
sach
rat
dang
gia.
4t
CHl/dNGS
Ca
gia
dinh
cung nliau iam viec
}h
,(Trillin
Gid ban da thiet lap muc tieu cua minh roi, vay biidc tiep
theo
la gi? De c6
the khien tre hdp tac
va
cam ket, thi
hoi
dong
gia dinh

la
mot phiidng tien
ly
tifcfng.
Co
the
cCing
nhau chia
se
nhiing
y
tifdng mot
each
thoai mai ma
khong ai nhan ra do la mot buoi hop,
hoac
giong
nhii
mot
buoi hop cua "ban giam
doc"
dien ra moi tuan
de
thao
luan
ve cac
van
de
cua gia dinh. Hoi
dong

gia dinh
c6
the giup:
, ^;.
1.
Tang ciidng cam
giac
thuoc
ve gia
dinh ctia moi
thanh
vien.
47
2. Phat
trien
mot bo quy tSc va chinh
sach
de moi
thanh
vien deu hieu nhiJng gidi han va trach nhiem
cua minh.
3. Cung cap
kinh
nghiem trong
viec
giai quyet van de,
dam phan va thvfdng thao.
4. De moi thanh vien c6 cd hoi bay to
bang
each

dong
gop y kien va gdi y cac giai phap. , ;
5. Tao dieu kien cho
viec
dat muc tieu va qua
trinh
dat
dudc
thanh
tiiu.
6. Thiic day sii cam ket cua moi thanh vien va tang
ciidng hdp tac.
7. Cung cap cd hoi thvfc hanh ky nang lanh dao.
8. Chia se
mong
muon va sii quan tam t6i moi thanh
vien trong gia dinh.
9. Tang cifdng dam bao s\ quyet
doan,
doan
ket va
cong
bing. ' ,n
-'^ ^
~ "v';.
THIET
LAP HOI DONG GIA DINH
Lam the nao de thiet lap mot hoi
dong
gia dinh? Cau true

cd ban c6 the
giohg
mot hoi
dong,
v6i
bo'va
me (neu do la
gia dinh c6 du bo" va me) nhiJ la hai
dong
chu tich va cac
con la thanh vien cua hoi
dong.
Moi thanh vien eo mot
phieu bau, nhiing bo" me se
giii
quyen phu quyet. Cac
budi
thao luan eo the
diln
ra than thien nh\ giufa nhxing
ngUdi ban, moi thanh vien c6 cd hoi
trinh
bay y tiicing,
hanh
dong
va cac giai phap. Khuye'n khich cac gdi y c6
48
tif
duy
sang

tao va gi€i cac quyet dinh cho den khi ca van
de Idn
dUdc
diia ra. Nhiing phildng
phap
nay c6 the tang
cUdng svf
doan
ket nhieu hdn la loi
song
ai biet ngiidi do.
Nhiing,
ban dvfng
mong
ddi thanh
cong
100%. Budi hop
tham chi doi khi c6 the din tdi mot
cuoc
cai va.
Khi
nao c6 the to chvfc hoi dong? Phu
thuoc
vao
loan
canh
cua ban, no c6 the diidc td ehiic vao sau biia
o'i,
sang
s6m

ngay
thvL
Bay, hay chieu Chu nhat; moi
lang
hoac
moi tuan mot Ian. Gia dinh c6 nhieu tre nho
^6 the khong c6 nhieu mdi quan he va nhieu lich
trinh
'ung nhau
nhxi
mot gia dinh c6 nhieu tre 16n hdn, khi
16 cac lich trung nhau nhieu va khd thu xep, nhifng ban
'cang
s6m hit dau thong le td chiic cac
cuoc
thao luan
gia dinh thi
cang
tot cho
cong
viec
sau nay. Hay
giii
cho
cac buoi hop gia dinh
dUdc
ngan gon. Thdi gian hop anh
hiidng
trUc tiep t6i thanh
cong

cua budi hop. Hau het cac
van de c6 the diidc giai quyet trong
vong
15 phut, sau 30
phut thi hieu qua se khong con
niia.
Se rat tot neu
cuoc
hop hoi
dong
chijfng 20 phut moi tuan hdn la mot budi
hdp thang ked dai hai tieng!
Hoi
dong se dvfgfc suf dung
nhtif
the nao? Mpt so'
ong bo' ba me khong chi sxi dung hoi
dong
gia dinh la ndi
de thao luan ve cac van de cua gia dinh, ma con dCing de
hu:6ng din va vui chdi. Cha me c6 the day cac con hu:6ng
dan ve an toan,
each
ling
xvL,
cac moi quan he xa hoi,
nhiing
khai niem dao
diLc.
Trong nhutng trUdng hdp nay,

cudc
hop gia dinh c6 the keo dai lau hdn. Do c6 the la
thdi
49
gian
de
cung
lam mot qua hi ngo cho le hoi hoa
trang
Halloween,
lam do
trang tri
cho
ngay
nghi
le,
trong
cay,
cham
soc
vxibn,
hoc
each
ddm
cue
quan
ao. Se c6
rat nhieu
hoat
dong

cho cac hoi
dong
gia
dinh; thifdng thi
no se
trd
thanh
mot
buoi toi
ca gia
dinh
quay
quan
ben
nhau.
Ban
CO
the
tifcing tufdng
dufdc
ca gia
dinh
cung
d ben
nhau
khong?
Dieu
nay
khong dien
ra mot

each
tinh
cd; no can
difdc
len ke
hoach
va
kiem
soat,
neu
khong thi nhuing
viec
khac
se xen vao. Cac
so'lieu
tijf
Bo Y
te,
Giao
due va
Xa
hoi My chi ra
rang
viec
duy
tri
cac cuoc hop gia
dinh
thUdng
xuyen

mot gid mot
tuan,
du chi de vui
chdi,
noi
chuyen
hay
hii6ng
dan con cai
chuyen
nay
chuyen
kia,
se
giam
kha
nang
tre mac
phai nhi3ng
van de nhu
quay
pha
d
trufdng,
svt
dung ru!du,
ma
tuy,
va con so'
nay giam

t6i
42%. Nhiing
bac cha me no
l\ic
de gia
dinh cf
ben
nhau
nhan
ra
rang,
neu ho
khong
len ke
hoach,
ngay
thang
se
troi
qua va bon tre se
rat nhanh Idn.
Mot meo nho de
cuoc hop gia
dinh thanh
cong
la c6
them phan giai tri
va
an
uo'ng

vui
ve sau moi
buoi
hop,
dieu
nay
ciing giiip
cac
thanh vien trong
gia
dinh
c6 cd hoi
thiic hanh
cac ky
nang nau
an. - . i ; ,
Khi
CO
van de dot
xuat
hay mot cd hoi nao do
t6i,
ciing
CO
the to
chiic
mot cuoc hop gia
dinh
dac
biet.

Gia
dinh
nha Swort luon
c6 mot
buoi
hop vao
ngay
dau
tien
cua
ky
nghi
he de
vach
ra ke
hoach
hoat
dong,
dat ra cac
muc tieu
va
phan
cong cong
viec.
Ho
ciing
to
chiic
mot
buoi

hop hoi
dong
vao
thang
Miidi
mot de len ke
hoach
to
chiic
cac
boat
dong
mtog Giang sinh.
Co
Swort
se
mang
•I
cay thong difdc trang tri
ve nha vao dem
triidc Giang
sinh
va
dUdc
thdp
sang
cho
tcti
nam
mdi, nhiing

bon tre
nha
CO
thi thich tham
gia tii
nhieu tuan triJ6c
do. Bon
tre
nha
Swort
dudc
phep
chdi
tro
chdi
de duy
tri truyen
thong
cua gia
dinh.
Hoi
dong
gia
dinh ciing quye't dinh
viec
thvtc hien
cac dU an
dich
vu cua gia
dinh

va cac mon
qua
se
difdc danh tang
cho ban be va
thay
c6.
Dong
thdi,
nhiing
dijfa
tre nha
Swort
se hoc
diidc
tinh
doc
lap,
each
hdp
tac va ho
trd Ian nhau trong
gia
dinh.
No
liic
thuc
day
phat trien
cac

truyen thong
gia
dinh. Nhiing truyen thong
ay tac ra
khoang
thdi
gian nhat dinh
de ca gia
dinh d
ben
nhau, giiip
cuoc
song
gia dinh
c6
chung
mot nen
tang
va c6
phong
each
rieng.
Cac
dip
nghi
le va
sinh nhat
la
thdi
gian

vfu
tien
cho
cac
truyen thong
gia
dinh
tiJf
each
thiic
ban
trang
tri
cay
thong Noel
den
viec
chuan
hi cac mon an
mijfng
Le
Phuc
sinh.
Cac
truyen thong
ci day ddn
gian
la cau noi "ngu
ngon,
con yeu" vao

thdi
gian
bon tre di ngu, ngu
niidng
vao
sang
thii
Bay, tro
chdi "danh ICfa
hay
tiep
don" (vao
ngay
le
Halloween),
chon
thilc
ddn cho
biia
toi vao
ngay
sinh
nhat
mot
thanh vien trong
gia
dinh, tham
cac
nghia
trang

vao
Ngay
tvicing niem (Memorial
Day)\y mot
buoi
no
bong
ngo vao toi
Chii nhat.
SvL
dung
vai
truyen
tho'ng
da c6
t\i
thdi
tre
ciia
ban va
phat
trien
them
vdi
nhiing
truyen tho'ng
khac
ciing
cac con. Hoi
dong

gia
' Ngay
le
tai Hoa Ky, dien ra vao ngay
thii
Hal cuoi cung trong thang
Nam hang nam
de
tudng ni^m cac quan nhan Hoa
Ky da hi
sinh.
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