GIA TR! DAO DUC C O A GIA DJNH VIET NAM
TRUYEN T H O N G TRONG B O I C A N H T O A N C A U HOA
NGUYEN THI THQ *
Tdm th: Gia dinh Viet Nam tmyIn thflng la gia dinh dupc hinh thanh va
phat trien trong ljch su Viet Nam. Trong gia dinh trayfln thflng cic gii tri dao
due dugc de cao, dieu dfl tao thanh nfln nip, gia phong, gia giio cua gia dinh.
Nhieu gii tri dao due cua gia dinh tmyen thong den nay van can dugc luu gid,
bfl sung va phat triin. Bai vilt phan tich cac gia tri dao due co ban cua gia dinh
Viet Nam tmyen thong; sy can thiet giu gin vi phat huy cic gia tri dgo ddc gia
dinh Viet Nam trayen thflng ttong bfli cinh toan ciu hoa.
Tic khda: Gia dinh, dao ddc gia dinh, gia dinh Viflt Nam trayen thflng, toan

1. Gia dinh Viet Nam truyen thong
Gia dinh li mgt don vj xa hpi, rapt
thiflt chS xa hpi cfl xua nhat nhung lgi
bSn vflng nhat. Cfl xua nhit theo nghTa
li, CO eon ngudi l i cd gia dinh, con
ngufli sinh ra, Ion Ifln va traflng thinh to
gia dinh. Trong tic phim "He tu toflng
Due", C.Mie v i Ph.Angghen eho ring:
"Hang ngiy tii tgo ra ddi sflng eua bin
thin rainh eon ngudi bit diu tao ra
nhflng ngudi khae, smh sfli, niy nd - do
li quan he gida chflng v i vp, eha me v i
CPU cii, dd li gia dinh"*''. Gia dinh bit
ngudn td quan he nam ntt, td viec sinh
con de eii rat ty nhien v i td nhu ciu
nuoi duong, giao due con eii. Mae du
bit ngufln ta nhtlng nhu eau rat ty nhien,
nhung gia dinh li mpt thilt chi xa hgi,
mpt hien tagng xa hfli, bdi viy, hinh

thuc v i chue nang cda nd xet din edng
bj quy djnh bdi tinh ehit cua quan he
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sin xuat, quan he xa hpi ndi chimg vi
cda ttinh dfl phit trifln van hoa xa hpi.
Tuong dng vdi mfli giai doan phit tiiln,
hinh thue td chue, quy md, ehdc ning
cua gia dinh cd nhdng thay d6i. Gia dinh
thyc Men nhiiu ehuc ning, frong do
ehdc nang gido due co mpt y nghTa die
biet quan ttgng. Bfli, giao due gia dinh
li nfln ting dau tifln, lien tuc, thuong
xuy6n v i liu dii dfli vdi rafli con nguoi.
Trong giio due gia dinh thi giio dye dgo
ddc rit dupc quan tam. Nhiing quy djnh,
phep tie, chuan muc dgo ddc trong gia
dinh m i moi th4nh vifln phai toan theo
sfl 14 CO sd dl gitt gin sy fln dinh, phit
trifln cda gia dinh va xa h0i.
Gia dinh trayfln thflng l i gia dinh da

'•' Tiin si, Truong Dai hpc Su phgm Ha Npi.
'" C. Mac va Ph.Ang ghen (1995), Todn tgp, tap
3, Nxb Chinh trj quoc gig. Ha Nfli,fr.4 L


Gid tri dga due cua gia dinh Viet Nam truyen thdng...

hinh thinh v i tfln tgi trong qua khd, m i

frong dd chda dyng nhiflu yflu tfl ben
vflng dupc luu trayen ta the he niy
sang the he khic, nhttng yflu tfl de phin
inh nin van hpi bin dja v i gpp phan
tgo nfln bin sic van hoi din tpc. Trong
gia dinh Viet Nam trayen thflng, nin
nip, gia phong, giio due dgp ddc hit
sdc dupc cpi trpng. Khudn phep le giio
lufln thim dupm hing ngay trpng y
thdc, treng dng xu v i giap tiep eda eic
thinh vifln trpng gia dinh qua eic mfli
quan he, dan trd thanh nip sflng gia
dinh, thinh gia phong.

cd thfl tfln tai v i phit trifln. Dd li su gin
bd gida ong ba, eha rae, anh chj em...
Quy rao cda loai hinh gia dinh niy
thuong Ion (gia dinh md rpng), gflm
tam, ta, ngd dgi dflng ducng. Diy la gia
dinh phu he, cpi ttpng thd cdng tfl tifln
v4 chiu inh huong rit Ion cda Nho giao.
Net die trung cua gia dinh truySn
thflng la sy gan bd cao ve tinh cim theo
huyit thflng; b4o luu cac trayfln thflng
van boa, tip tuc, IS nghi; phit huy tflt
gia phong, gia IS, gia dao. Cic thinh
viSn trong gia dinh gidp do nhau vS vit
ehit, tinh thin, nguoi gii dupe chira
Gia dinh Viflt Nam trayin thflng chda see, the he tre duge flng bi, eha rae giio
nhilu ylu tfl tuong dfli fln djnh v i luu due, trayin dat cic kinh nghiem cua

tmySn td thS he nay sang thS he khic, cuflc sflng. Gia dinh la mgt bfl phan gin
gin liln vdixa hgi nflng nghiep, nflng vdi ddng hp, td dp niy sinh nhtlng quan
thfln. Hinh thii gia dinh niy gid dja vj he tinh cira, thira viSng, nhiing trach
dflc tfln v i tfln tgi it ra li cho den trade nhiSra tacng trp "raflt gipt miu dip ban
khi Vift Nam tiflp xde vdi vin minh ao nudc la", "rapt ngudi lira quan ci hp
cflng nghigp v i dfl thi (vio khoing cufli dugc nhd".
thi ky XIX diu thi ky XX). Theo Trin
2. Cac gia tr| dao due co ban ciia
Dinh Hugu, "gia dinh Viet Nam trayfln gia dinh Viet Nam truyen thong
thflng li kieu gia dinh tfln tai trade khi
Gii tri dao ddc trayin thflng li bp
chiu inh huflng Au hoi, nghTa li tfln tgi phan cot loi ttong cie gia ttj tinh thin
cho den cufli the ky XIX, vl sau vin eon trayen th6ng Viet Nara. Ndi din gia trj
phfl blln, nhung chd yflu Ii d n6ng dgo ddc gia dinh trayen thong li ndi dSn
th6n"*^'. Mfli gia dinh Viet Nara trayen cic chuan myc dgo ddc t6t dep, dugc
thflng li raflt don vj kinh te dpc lap dien hinh thinh, phat triin gin lien vdi sy
hinh, li mpt dan vj sin xuit ndng hinh thinh, phit ttiln eda gia dinh
nghigp khep kin. Trong gia dinh, mpi trayen thflng, raang tinh tuong dfli fln
ngudi khdng chi gin be vdi nhau bang
nhflng mfli liSn he vgt chit, dim bio cho '^' Trjn Dinh Huau (1996), Gia dinh vd gido
sy sflng cdn cua ban thin rai cdn bang due gia dinh, Nhiing nghien ciru xd hgi hgc ve
nhttng mfli lifln hg tinh cira rait thilt dl gia dinh a Viet Nam, Nxb Khoa hpc xa hpi. Hi
Npi,fr. 55.

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djnh, dugc luu trayfln ta the he niy sang

the he khic nhim diflu chinh hinh vi cua
cie thinh vien trong gia dinh theo
nhflng quan he co bin. Trong gia dinh
trayen th6ng ton tai mpt he thong eic
quy tie dgo ddc chi dao radi quan he
gitta cie thinh vien theo nhung khufln
phep, chuin raue, dupe trayen ta the hS
niy sang thi he khic bing hinh thue
tmyen mieng va nhiflu hinh thuc khong
thinh van khic. Dd li kinh fren nhuomg
dudi; kinh ttgng, biflt on cha me, liy
ehtt hilu lim diu; kinh ttpng flng bi, thd
phung tfl tifln; lgi ieh c i nhan phuc tung
lgi ieh gia dinh, dong hp.
Co the khii quit rang, dao ddc gia
dinh trayin thflng li nhung quy tie,
chuin mye dgo ddc diflu chinh quan he
dng xd gitta cic thinh vifln trong gia
dinh; nhitag quy pham v i h4nh vi cua
con ngudi trong van dfl hon nhin va gia
dinh; li sy bieu Men eda tinh taong dfli
fln djnh, liu dii ttong cie mli quan he
cha con, anh em, chflng vg. Dao due gia
dinh Viet Nam trayfln thong bao gflm
mpt he thflng eic ehuin myc ,mang
nhiflu sac thai ey thi d nhdng vdng
raifln, trong nhflng thdi ky ljch sd khic
nhau. Tuy vjiy, do tinh cgng dflng v i
raJit din tpc, do tinh ki thda vi mat ljch
su m i mgt sfl ehuan mye chung cd y

nghla phfl bien dupe hinh thinh, fln djnh
vi phit ttifln tao nfln nhdng gii trj
tiTiyfln thong trong sy vin dpng v i phit
trifln eua ddi sflng gia dinh Viet Nara.
Nhttng chuan muc, gii trj mang y

nghTa phfl biin ttong gia dinh bao gflm:
tinh nghia, thuy chung, hod thugn trong
quan he chflng - vp; tic, hieu frong quan
he cha me
con cii; hod thudn, de
trong quan he anh chi era. Viec thuc
hien eac chuin mye dao ddc niy gflp
phin dim bio sy on djnh, hii ho4, phit
triin trong nfli bp mfli gia dinh v i trong
quan he giua gia dinh voi hp tflc, ling
xdm, dit nudc.
Thic nhdt, trong quan he chong va,
tinh nghia, thuy chung, hod thuan 14
nhttng gia tri dao due can b4n dl duy tri,
I4m bfln chgt cugc hon nhan gitta hai
ngudi. NghTa tinh l i hai yeu to vo cdng
quan trpng ttong ehuin muc cu xu
khflng chi ngoii xa hoi ma con c i ttong
ddi sflng vp chflng. Cae cap vp chflng
lay nhau eo thfl khong cd tinh yflu,
nhung vi tinh nghla ma tgo thinh spi
day ring buoc hp suflt ddi "mot ngay
cung n6n nghia vp chflng". Dao 14m vg
chong phii cung kinh y6u nhau, dflc

iflng voi an nghla. Tinh nghia, thuy
chung, hoi thugn duac phin anh dam
net frong dan ca, ca dao, trayfln nflm,
traygn cfl tieh, ttong ea cac sing tic cfl
tinh bic hpe. "Vp ehing 14 nghTa tao
khang/ XuIng khe bit 6c 16n ng4n hii
rau"; "Riu tdm niu vdi mpt biu/ Chflng
chan vp hup git diu khen ngon". Tinh
nghla, thuy chung, hoi thuin niy sinh td
cupc sflng, ta su chung sue lam in,
chung vai ginh vie trich nhigm gia
dinh. Dfli khi cupc sflng cing kho khin,
vit v i thi nghia tinh cang sau ning. Tinh


Gid tri dgo diic cua gia dinh Viet Nam truyin thdng...

nghia iy doi hdi phii ttin ttgng bang
tinh yflu thuy chung, bing su tfln trpng
lan nhau, "Chflng em io rich em
thuong/ Chflng ngudi ao gim xong
hucmg mic nguoi". Tu thuy ehung, tinh
nghTa, hoi thugn m i ddi hdi vp chflng
phii quan tam v i ton ttpng lin nhau,
diy khflng chi li yeu ciu vfl mat dgp
ddc, mi frong nhflng thdi ky ljch sd nhit
djnh edn 14 ddi hdi eda phip luat. Cd thi
thiy rS diiu niy ttong nhflng dilu lugt
vi dao ddc gia dinh trong cac bp Mat
thdi LS, thdi Nguyin hoic trong Hiln

phip vi Lugt Hfln nhan v i gia dinh d
nudc ta hign nay.

thinh nhttng nguoi eon Hilu. Hiiu li
yflu ciu, li chuin myc dao ddc ttong
quan he cua con cai dfli voi cha rae.
Trong gia dinh Viet Nam tray6n thflng,
hieu dupc coi li ehuin myc dgo due,
dflng thdi li phim chit dao ddc v i quan
ttgng nhat eda eon nguoi trong quan he
gia dmh. Hiiu dupe hmh thinh ta xa
xua, gin lifln voi phong tue v i tin
nguong thd edng tfl tien; din din dupc
Phat giio lam phong phd v i ey the them
ngi dung; dugc Nho giao ning ISn thinh
yeu eiu bic nhit cua dao ddc gia dinh.
Hieu dupe xlp ddng diu ttim nSt eda
con ngudi: "Lim ttai net du trim duflng/
Thic hai, trong quan hp cha mf - con Trade tien dilu hiiu dgo thudng xua
cdi, tic, hiiu li nhttng ehuin myc dgo nay"; "Di6u hiiu ddng vdng, mufln dilu
due cin bin. Trong quan h^ eha me dfli thien theo/ Phuc thifln ddng dgo, phdc
vdi con cii thi tic dupe dat ISn hing diu. linh duge gieo". Trong gia dinh trayin
Tic li nhin td, dp lugng, li tinh thuong, thflng, dao Mflu dupe xem li gfle rfl eda
sy qyan tim, trich nhiem cda eha rae mgi viee dgy dgo ly, gia phong. Gia
dfli vdi can cii. Tinh thygng vi trich huin rin dgy eon eii ghi long tgc dg
nhiSm cd cpi ngufln td quan he buySt cflng sinh thinh duong dye cda eha rag
thflng, nhung vi bin chit, chdng phin v i bio dip cflng on dd bing hieu. Chtt
inh ehdc ning cda gia dinh trong vigc hieu ttong gia dinh Vigt Nam trayen
sin sinh vi nufli dudng con nguoi. Tinh thflng thfl Men tinh cira cao quy nhin
thuong v i trich nhiSm cda cha rae dfli bin eda con ngudi vfl sy biflt on cflng

vdi con cii dupc hinh thinh ttong sinh smh thinh, day dfl, ty giic cd trich
hogt gia dinh, cda nfln vin hoa ban dja, nhiflm, nghia vu chira nom, san soc,
dong thoi cung chju inh huflng cua cie nufli ning phung duflng cha me Ide gii
ton giio du nhip vio Viet Nara. Sinh yeu, 6m dau; li tang ma chu dio, taflng
con vi giao dye eon, thuang yflu, chira nhd cong on khi cha me rait; li nfli
sflc, nufli dgy con nfln nguoi, tao dung nghiep nhi, lim rgng rd tfl tifln. Chu
cho con ci doi sflng vgt chit va tinh thin trinh cua chtt Mflu li lifln tye, tira guong
cua cic bge cha ra? dupe thi hien frong thye Men chd MSu eda thi he niy sfl inh
chd tu, v i dd cung li co sd dl hinh huong va dupc kS tiSp d thS he sau.
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Thic ba, trong quan he anh chi em,
hod thudn, de li chuin mue dgo due ein
bin. Duge sinh ra to mflt cpi ngufln,
cdng Ion ifln duoi su eham sdc cda cha
me v i thudng song voi nhau suflt thdi
tho iu duoi rapt mil nhi, nen tinh eim
v i trich nhiem dgo due gitta anh chj em
dupe niy sinh, phit tri6n v i bfln chat.
"Khfln ngoan dfli dip nguoi ngoii/ G i
edng mpt rae chd hp4i da nhau"; "Cat
diy biu diy bi/ Ai na cit day chj day
era"; "Chj nga era nang"... Hai thuan
dpi hdi anh chi era phai thuong yflu,
doin kflt v i gidp dd lin nhau. Sy hoi
thuin gida anh chj em khflng chi li nhu
ciu npi tgi cda quan he huyflt thflng
trpng gia dinh, ma edn 14 nhu ciu, raong

raufln eda eha me, hp hing. Cha me sinh
con, nufli con v4 ludn mong raufln cie
con hoi thuin, thuong yeu, giup do lin
nhau. Gia hudn ca cd dogn: "Lai phii
tuflng trong dgo chj era/ Dao em thi d
ttflng len/ Dao chj tr6ng xuong cho 6m
dep ehi6u/ Mieng bdi ngpt ehia diu nhy
rapt/ BChi ning mua im spt dd tay/ Vdi
nhau nhu bit nudc diy/ L i linh ddra
bge bang eay raom ra"*''. Trong quan he
anh chj era, Nho giao con xie lap phara
tin De v i pham trd niy cflng duge thi
Men khi ro net trpng dap ddc gia dinh
Viet Nam trayen thflng. De li yflu ciu
vi chuin myc dao ddc diiu ehinh ci anh
lin era. Mpt ngudi anh ed di li rapt
ngudi bilt thuong yflu v i ed trich nhiSra
dfli vdi cic em. Trach nhiflm iy cing trd
nfln ning ne hem khi cha me mat sitai v i
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eic era chua tracmg thinh. Khi dd nguoi
anh ed vai frd v i trich nhiem nhu ngudi
eha. Thye hien trach nhiem dfli voi cic
em cung ding thfli li mgt ttong nhung
y6u ciu, nfli dung eda viec thyc hien dgo
hieu d nguoi anh. Ngudi em co de li
nguoi biit kinh ttgng, y6u thuang v i
die biet l i biSt ving ldi anh. Thyc hien
de dfli vdi anh cung chinh 14 thuc Men

rapt yen cau eda dgo hilu doi vdi eha
rae. Nhu vay, cung nhu hieu, de ttong y
nghTa chin chinh eua nd v i trong nhthig
dilu kien Hch sd sin sinh ra nd ed tie
dyng Ion trong viec gdp phin xiy dung,
edng ed dao ddc gia dinh. Vi thi, de 14
mgt hinh thuc bilu thj chuin mye dao
ddc gitta anh v4 em trong gia dinh ViSt
Nam truyen thflng.
3. Gid gin va phat huy cac gii trj
dao dire cua gia dinh Vi^t Nam truyen
thong trong boi canh toan ciu hoa
Trong mpt v4i thgp ni6n gin day, qui
ttinh toin ciu hda ngiy cing tac dpng
mgt each rgng Ion v4 siu sic din mpi
quflc gia, dan tflc tr6n thi gidi. Nhihig
mfli day lifln he ching chjt, trade hit 14
tren ITnh vuc kinh ti, sau dd li cic Hnh
vyc khic cda ddi sdng xa hpi di gin kit
eac quflc gia lai gin nhau hom.
Khi ndi d6n toin eiu hda, trade hit
ngudi ta ndi dSn toin eiu hoa kinh ti,
bdi kinh te li mflt trong nhdng ITnh vyc

'" (1952), Gia hudn ca (Thi Nham Dinh Gia
Thuylt dinh chinh va chi thich) In lan 4, Sach
giaokhoaTanVipt,tr. 17-18.


Gid tri dao diic cua gia dinh Viet Nam truyin thong...


CO ban cua ddi sflng xa hgi. Sau kinh tfl,
mpi ITnh vye khic ta chinh ttj din vin
hda, dgo ddc cdng dflu chju inh hudng
cua toin cau hda vdi nhttng mdc dp
khic nhau. BSn canh nhdng co hgi,
toin cau hda cung dang tgo ra nhflng
thich thdc to ldn cho cic nydc dang
phit triin.
Toin ciu hda da gdp phin tich eye
ttong vigc tang tradng kinh tl v i khi
ning giup cac nude kem phit ttiln thoat
khfli tmh ttgng ngheo ddi. Nhu ciu vit
chit cua con ngudi dang ngiy cing
dugc thda min. Nhung, edng nhu tit ei
cie hiSn togng x i hpi khic, tpan ciu hca
cung dang giy nhieu cang thing, thiflt
tbdi vi nguy hai cho nhdng ngudi
ngheo, nudc ngheo. Trude con 16c cua
toin ciu hda, moi quoe gia, dan tgc cin
phii lim gi dl tin dyng dupe thdi ca,
vygt qua dupe thich thdc, hpi nhap rai
khflng bj hfla tan? Day la cau hdi rai tit
ci cae quflc gia deu phii quan tira dfl
tim ra ldi giii dip thoa ding. Nhung ed
lfl, CO mgt cau tri ldi ehung nhit - dd Ii
nhin tfl con ngudi, nhdng ci nhin ed
nhin cich, phit triin toan dien li ngufln
lye eua mfli nguon luc. Con ngudi li gii
trj gfle sinh ra mpi gii trj vat chat v i tinh

thin. Sy nghiflp giio due, dio tgo cen
ngydi li trich nhiSra cda toin xa hpi,
nhtmg diu tifln phii li gia dinh, nhtrng
nguySn tic, chuan myc dgo ddc gia
dinh, dygc flng ba, eha me traySn day se
li nhttng bii hpe diu tiSn, ein thi6t de
con ngudi lira hinh ttang bude vao

cupc song. Viet Nam dang tien hanh
cflng nghiep hoa, MSn dai hoa, xay
dyng, bio ve dit nude vihig bude di ISn
chd nghTa x i hpi, chang dudng niy cin
su dflng sde dflng long eda toin xa hfli,
ttong do gia dinh, giao dye dgo ddc gia
dinh cd vai ttd hflt sde quan ttgng. Van
kien Hgi nghj Ian thd nam Ban Chip
hinh Tnmg uong khoi VIII cda Ding
da khang djnh: "Trong sy nghiflp iy, gia
dmh va cic b i rae Viet Nara cd vai ttd
eye ky to Ion, li nhtlng nguoi traySn thy
hilu bilt v i nhan each cho cic thfl he
Viet Nam td thud Igt long"''*'.
Giflng nhy nhiiu nude kem phit ttiln
khic, xa hgi Viet Nam dang chuyin
minh dl ttd thinh mgt xa hgi hien dai.
RiSng qui ttinh chuyin td trayin thflng
sang hien dai di giy ra nhiSu dio Ifln
ttong ddi sflng xi bfli, do dd edng khflng
trinh khfli nhdng dio Ifln, dfl vd ve thiet
ehe gia dinh, dgo ddc gia dinh. Thflra

vio dd, qua trinh ehuyfln dfli nfln kinh tS
td CO che tip trang bao cip sang kinh tl
thj traong cting da lira cho gia dinh, dgo
ddc gia dinh ed nhiing biSn dfli theo
nhiflu chieu huong khic nhau. Vfl rait
tich cyc, ddi sflng vat chit eda nhiflu gia
dinh dugc cii thifln, sinh boat vin hoi,
tinh thin phong phu da dgng; dieu do
tao nhiflu co hgi v i dieu kien de xiy
dung cupc sflng gia dinh im no, binh
<•" Dang Cpng san Vipt Nam (1998), Vdn kifn
Hgi nghi Idn thii ndm Ban Chdp hdnh Trung
uang khod Vlll, Nxb Chinh trj quoc gia. Hi
Npi,fr.89.

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ding, tiin bg v i hgnh phuc, gidp cac
thinh vien gia dinh xich lgi gin nhau
edng hdong thy v i chia se cic phdc lpi
vl vat chit v i tmh thin. Mat tieu cue
bpc lg cung khong it. Tinh ttang suy
thoii dao ddc xa hfli ndi chung, dao due
gia dinh ndi rieng dang dupc xa bfli die
biet quan tim vi ngiy cing cd nhieu
tradng hgp vi phgm chuan myc dgo ddc
gia dinh. Nhiflu gii trj dap ddc gia dinh

ti:uyln thflng dang ee biiu Men mai rapt.
6 mgt so gia dinh cic gii tii dao ddc
hTiyIn thflng bj xem nhe, tinh nghTa,
thuy chung trong quan he vp chflng
khflng cen ben chit nhu xua. K6t hen
nhanh v i ly hfln cung h6t sde dfl ding.
Trong quan hS cha rae va eon cii thi td,
biflu Cling cd nhflng bilu Men theo nhiflu
chi6u huong. NhiSu cha me mii miSt
kiSm tiSn m i quSn di sy day dd con eii,
thfli gian dinh eho con khflng nhieu v i
thuong phd mac cho nhi traong, xa hpi,
ngudi gidp viec... DiSu de khiin cpn cii
Ion len thiflu hyt nhflng gii ttj m i khcng
di gi bd dip dupc. Nhiflu ngudi can bio
hieu cha me diy dd, nhdng eung khflng
it ngudi con bit hiflu lim dau long
nhung bic sinh thinh v4 ci xa hfli phii
suy ngim. Trong quan hg anh em, hoi
thuin, di ciing cd nhiing thay dfli. Dfli
khi vi dflng tiin, vi gii ttj vit ehit m i
ngydi ta quSn di tinh nghTa anh em. Vi
lgi ich vat chit, vi tiSn bge, dit dai, thda
ke rai anh chj em cd thi chem gi6t lin
nhau di ttanh giinh cua c4i, nhthig
chuyen dau long dd dang tgo n6n m4ng
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t6i ttong gii tii dao due cua gia dinh, xi
hfli. Quan he ttong nhilu gia dinh ttd

nen gay git, tinh cim sdt mS, gia dinh
khflng cdn 14 t6 im, d4m bao an toin
cho sy phit triin fri tofl, tinh cim, dgo
ddc, thi luc cua cac thinh vien, dac biet
14 ldp fre.
Trong nhiSm vy xay dung v i phit
friin nin van hoi Viet Nara ti6n tiin,
dira d i bin sac dan tpc. Ding ta di xic
djnh "Gitt gin v i phat huy nhihig dgo ly
tit dep cua gia dinh Viet Nam. NSu eao
vai ttd gucmg miu cua cic bac cha me.
Coi trgng xiy dvmg gia dinh vin hoa.
Xiy dyng mfli quan he khang khit gitta
gia dinh, nhi traomg va xa hgi"'". Bdi
le, ngay td trong gia dinh, moi traong
giio due dau tiSn va suflt ddi cda con
ngudi, mfli nguoi dupe giio dye day du
cic chuin muc dgo due, dao ly gia
phong, nhflng phep tie trong dfli nhan
xd thfl dl "d ddi" v i "lim ngudi" mgt
cich cin than, thi nhtlng gii ttj dgo ddc
dd se thim sau trong suy nghT v i hinh
dflng, nep an, d eda hp v i khi bddc ra
radi truong xa hpi nhflng con ngudi dfl
se dS suy nghi v i h4nh dpng rapt cich
cd dao due, gdp phin xay dyng dgo due
xa hpi. Chinh nhdng quy djnh, chuin
raye dgo ddc dupc hinh thanh, dugc
giio dye trong gia dinh sS ttd thinh
dpng luc thdi thdc, nhic nhd mfli ngudi

'" Dang Cpng san Vipt Nam (1998), Vdn kifn
Hgi nghi idn thii ndm Ban Chdp hdnh Trung
uang khod Vlll, Nxb Chinh frj quoc gia, Hi
Npi,fr.60.


Gid tri dga ddc cita gia dinh Vift Nam truyen thong...

vS trich nhiem, bfln phin cua minh
ttong moi quan he gia dinh di rfli to dd
md rpng ra dfli vdi quS huong, dit nudc.
DSn nay, du ddi sflng vat chit v i ddi
sflng tinh thin, ciu trdc gia dinh cd thay
dfli, nhung hom bao gid hit, chdng ta
cin tiflp tye vun ttflng, nuoi duang, phit
huy nhflng gii trj tflt dep eua gia dinh
trayen thong. Dd li ddc to cda cha me
dfli vdi con cii, dgo Mflu cda eon eii
dfli vdi eha me, long biit on flng bi, tfl
tifln. Dd li long chung thuy gitta vp v i
chflng; su nhuomg nhjn, ehia se lin
nhau gitta anh chj em mgt nhi. Xiy
dyng biu khong khi gia dinh din chu,
binh ding, hoi thuin, yflu thuong; cdng
cfl gia phpng, xiy dyng gia giio, giio
dye gia huin eho cic the he trSn eo sd
nhflng gii ttj dao ddc gia dinh trayen
thflng li nhiing vigc ein lim ngay trong
dilu kign hgi nhgp quflc tfl. Mfli sy cfl
ging dem lgi mgt thinh qui tflt dep nio

dfl, li mgt ddng gdp nho nhfl gdp phan
tgo nfln bl diy trayin thflng. Trayfln
thing gia dinh khflng chi cd tic dyng
nhu mflt dflng lyc tinh than thoi thdc
mfli ngudi phin diu m i cdn cd tic dung
nhu rapt CO chi tu bip ve, eh6ng lgi sy
tha hpa frpng bfli cinh toin ciu. Can
ning eao nhin thdc cho rail ei nhin,
mii gia dinh v i toin xa hgi vS vai trd
cua dgo due gia dinh, nhthig net dep
cua dgo due gia dinh trayin thflng trong
sy hinh thinh v i phit trien nhan cich
cua mfli ngudi. Cin gitt gin, phit huy
vi thudng xuyen giio dye nhttng gii trj

do cho the he tte, gidp hp thay dupc sy
tiSp noi gitta trayen thing v i Men dai,
eho hp nSn ting dl ren giua phim ehit
dgp ddc cda bin thin. Cin kl thda
nhiing tinh hpa trayin thflng cda din
tpc, xiy dyng rapt y thdc he mdi phd
hgp voi bfli cinh eua thdi dgi.
Kit luan
Gia dlnh li cii nfli nufli dudng can
ngudi ci vfl rait thfl chat lin tinh than
ttpng suflt cupc ddi, li noi ttao trayin
nhdng gii ttj dgo due dl diiu chinh
hinh vi ttong quan he gida cic thinh
vien ttong gia dinh. Trong gia dinh
traySn thflng eung nhd hien dgi, dgo ddc

gia dinh li mgt ttgng nhtmg ylu tfl cin
bin dl tag nen sy fln djnh, im ng, hgnh
phdc eda mfli gia dinh vi gdp phin de
xiy dyng dgo ddc xa hgi ndi chung.
Nhflng chuin myc dao ddc gia dinh ttd
thinh yflu t l cflt 181 cho vigc diiu chinh
rafli quan he gida cic thinh viSn; li yeu
tfl ngi sinh ggp phin xiy dyng gia dinh
trd thinh tfl ira, thinh cii nfli nufli
duflng cugc ddi cda mfli ccn ngufli. Gia
dinh li mgt thiet chS xi bfli dac thd, khi
bin vtmg nhtmg cung rit nhay cira viji
mpi bien dfli xi hfli. Trong bfli cinh
toin ciu boa v4 hfli nhip quflc tfl siu
rflng hien nay, thiit chi gia dinh khflng
trinh khoi nhflng rang ehuyfln ttong hg
gii ttj eua rainh. Trong bfli cinh dfl,
chdng ta tim vfl nhtrng gii ttj dao due ea
bin eda gia dinh Viet Nam trayfln thflng
dl kl thua, phit huy, dS xiy dyng gia
dinh im no, hanh phdc.
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